When Anxiety Gets Ahold of You

IMG_8732When things get hard, buy yourself flowers. Make yourself some tea. Read poetry. Write bad poetry and then write poetry that’s even worse than that- you have to start somewhere so just start. Write beautiful poetry about love. Write a poem on a napkin about someone who hurt you and then tear it up and throw it out. Wear something that makes you feel like stardust. Wear nothing but your skin. Sleep in late or wake up early and spend some time under the rising or setting sun. Tell someone you’re hurting. Ask them for their help. Breathe deeply- five in and five out. Take a photo that reminds you how beautiful you are. Take a bath. Go to therapy. Park your car at the top of your parking garage, open all the windows, blast your favorite album and dance until you can’t feel your legs. Go out. Spend some time in a coffee shop with a good book. Go over to a friends house and watch a bad movie- make funny comments the whole time. Buy a journal and cover every page with your worries- go over them and paint them into something else. Let them live there.

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Feel your feelings and don’t say sorry.

Fall Inspiration: Saint Laurent FW15

It’s almost one hundred degrees in the hot, humid South and I’m itching for cooler days. Fall nights ruled by skintight leather, cheetah print coats and heels that allow no room for error, whatsoever. As the nights get longer and fall looms closer, I’m left longing for the pieces in my closet that make me feel a little rough, a little edgy and a whole lot of exposed. My current inspiration? The much loved, much hated rock star that is Hedi Slimane. All the naysayers, all the haters, all those who doubt his work for the legendary house of Saint Laurent best not doubt one thing; he’s going big. Regardless of where you stand on the debate of Slimane and his vision for the brand, you cannot deny his magnetic, edgy appeal and his ability to bring Saint Laurent to a new, trendier, and younger consumer. Slide3For Saint Laurent’s Fall Winter 2015 collection, there was an overarching motif of bad. In classic Slimane style, however, bad was done so, so well. Although pieces like a nipple exposing asymmetrical dress with perfectly tailored rouching , skintight slashed leather pants and ripped tights all led ones eye to believe that Slimane doesn’t do “clean”, a closer look leads one to believe otherwise. A Tin Man style trench coat in a matte metallic gray, princess style dresses with tulle galore in a variety of metallic 80’s fabrics and plethora of perfectly crafted leather jackets all prove Slimane knows exactly what he’s doing; and he’s doing it well. In a world where fashion is clean, feminine and sweet, there lies Slimane. Slimane is the hair metal in a world of grunge. He is the alternative in a world of clean cut. Although Hedi Slimane’s vision most likely deviates from that which Yves held, there is a time and a place for change… and it is now.

As someone who identifies with the darker side of fashion, that which bites and scratches and leaves one wondering “what’s next”, I admire Slimane. Beyond what any other fashion critic says, beyond the fact that someone out there will retort that you can get that same outfit at Forever 21- Slimane has taken a risk and redefined one of the most iconic houses in fashion history; and he’s managed to hold the spotlight as he’s done so. Yes, it’s not classic. No, it’s not necessarily “chic”. You know what it is? Rebellious and strong. Slimane’s vision for the house is sharp and it is young. Fashion has to be redefined by the youth and if now’s not the time to do so, when is? You go Slimane.

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A Ritual for the New Year

Hello lovers, I hope everyone has had a fabulous holiday season! It’s absolutely insane to think that the new year is right around the corner, but it’s also quite a relief. 2015 sounds more concrete than 2014, at least to me, (I’m a fan of the number 5), and I’m excited for the fresh start the new year seems to bring. I think it’s important to find closure with what the past year has taught us, and I also think it’s important to think about what we want the next year to hold. I decided to share a little ritual that I practice at the end of the year, and whenever I feel the need for some closure.

9[1]RITUAL FOR THE NEW YEAR

My favorite ritual is pretty simple and it’s just three steps! It’s a simple way to release your baggage from the past year and a great way to really cultivate the idea of what you do want this next year. You’ll need a few things; some sage, or incense or salt ( I chose to use sage), whatever crystals you feel like represent what you want in the forthcoming year (ie rose quartz for love), some paper and a pen, fire, whether it’s a fireplace or a match and a sink (BE CAREFUL) and any tarot or oracle cards you want. Gather all your materials, find a sacred space and you’re ready to begin!

8[1]1. GATHER YOUR SUPPLIES. CENTER. BREATHE

I chose to draw a card for 2014, Daughter of Wands, and one for 2015, The High Priestess. I burned some sage, gathered my stones, and grabbed my Kwan Yin, Ganesh and raven statue. I grabbed a pen and paper and found myself by my fireplace ready to contemplate and write. Grab whatever it is that makes you feel at peace, whatever it is that represents what you want to cultivate for this next year. Find a quite place where you can write and think and reflect. I wanted my god and goddesses and animals and crystals as physical reminder of my beliefs and what I want this next year to hold. Ganesh is the remover of obstacles, and Kwan Yin is the goddess of prayer, very appropriate in this situation! Sit and think about this past year and this next year, about what you want to hold onto and what you want to let go of, for as long as you need.

7[1]2. WRITE

Here’s the fun part. I love writing, and I love writing letters. At the end of the year, I like to write two letters to the universe; one for the past year, one for the upcoming year  I go through and reflect on what I’ve learned, and who’s come into my life (and left). I think about everything this past year’s taught me, and I thank the universe for it. Then, in a separate letter, I write what I want to do and learn in this upcoming year. Here’s the best part; nothing is too big for the universe. I love to go into detail about what I want, creating my own future from the inside out. There’s no need to be modest, no one else is seeing this letter after all!  Think about what this past year has taught you and think of how you can use that in the next year. Reflect, take time to really think about what it is that you’ve learned and what exactly it is that you want and write it down.

5[1]3. BURN YOUR LETTERS

Okay, maybe I spoke to soon. Burning your letter is the best part of this little ritual. Once you’re finished writing, burn your letter and release the energy into the universe. I love throwing my letters into the fire place and seeing them burn, there’s something so satisfying about seeing your words dissipate into nothingness, it feels so final and complete. It’s wonderful closure and a wonderful beginning, everything that makes the new year feel especially exciting. If you don’t have the luxury of a fireplace, a match and a toilet or sink are just as good. If you have no fire at your disposal, tearing up your letter is a perfect substitute. Take time to sit with the finality of burning or cutting your letters; and realizing that there’s a fresh new beginning right around the corner. 10[1]3[1]2[1]4[1]6[1]1[1]

No matter what you plan on doing this new years, have fun, be safe and be thankful! There’s a wonderful, fresh start right around the corner. EMBRACE IT!

What’s your favorite new years ritual?.

Namaste,

Gabriela

Photos by Alexandra Yael

Dégagé

Ballet has always had a special place in my soul and bones. My mother was a dancer, and when she was pregnant with me she knew I was going to follow in her footsteps since I was always moving around. My grandma even gave me a gold ballerina pendant when I was born. I took ballet classes when I was a toddler, and left it behind  to pursue Tae Kwon Do when I was going into the second grade. Almost four years and a black belt later (my parents wouldn’t let me quit martial arts until I received that honor) and I went back to ballet. From 6th grade until I graduated high school, I took ballet classes from a Russian teacher who was the best of the best. I did pointe and even thought of becoming a professional when I was first starting out (even though I was never anywhere near being good enough), but once I got to junior year I had time to only take a single teen/adult class per week. 6I started my yoga practice senior year of high school and that’s something that really fed my soul and my love for movement. Although ballet and yoga are very different, I’ve been able to find meaning and connection in both. Now more than ever, however, I miss ballet. I’ve been inspired by the costumes and by my old ballet skirt. I wore my old ballet skirt and took some time to dance in a field recently. Few things are as simple. 12120171614151918141312eh11109875432

Leotard: Nasty Gal/ Skirt: Old dance skirt/ Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

Photos: Alexandra Herstik, @alexyael

What makes you dance?

Namaste,

Gabriela