On Letting Go

I always hold on; to memories, to thing and to people especially. What if’s and why not’s consume my mind and leave me clinging to the past, searching for closure I never found. In the present, I distance myself from people who I care about when they get too close, and I constantly compare myself to others, even though I know I don’t know their real story. I’m always working on letting go, finding my own closure and understanding that the universe has perfect timing. There are things that happen that I may not want to accept or understand, but I let go, keep on and most of the time, later on down the road, I understand why things played out the way they did.

Letting go seems easy in theory. It’s such  a good idea to let go of what’s been hurting you, of what isn’t serving you. The thing is that we’re emotional, empathetic creatures. We crave love and affection, and letting go of someone or something that hasn’t been giving that to us or fulfilling us seems like admitting defeat. Letting go isn’t defeat. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or unworthy. Letting go means finding your own closure, giving yourself the freedom to be without worrying of what could be or “should” be.

Today, let go of what it is that’s holding you down, whether it’s someone else or your own thoughts. Your thoughts hold vast and infinite power, so hold what you want in your minds eye and don’t let it go. Let go of what it is that isn’t serving you. Create your own closure with people and situations and things that ended abruptly. As far as people are concerned, I love to write letters and then burn them. Do what you need to find peace in yourself.

Have patience with yourself. Find happiness in your own bones. Take time to tell yourself  “I love you” and know that it takes time to let go.Your process, your story, your journey is completely and utterly your own. Bask in it.

All photos by Alexandra Herstik, find her on twitter HERE and on instagram HERE

What are you working on today?



Indulge in Excess

I’ve never been a less is more kind of person when it comes to love and clothing and life.I wear a lot of lipstick and a lot of black. I wear a lot of jewelry and I wear clothing that tends to be visually overwhelming and not “simple”.  I love with my entire heart, I sing too loudly, I laugh like a mad woman and I dance like no one is watching, even if everyone is.

There are things I don’t indulge in everyday, read fruit tarts and margaritas, but the key to life is realizing that sometimes you should absolutely indulge. Life, besides being beautiful and grand, is also fleeting and we aren’t promised another minute or hour or day. Today I wore bright pink lipstick and talked a lot with one of my best friends and I’ve probably drank an unhealthy amount of coffee as well. The thing is I live life fully; indulging in simple pleasure that, to me, are what constitute deep, meaningful and loving relationships with people and life itself.

I’ve seen this trend of hating everyone and everything, and being proud of it. Adults who have turned their heart to darkness on purpose, with no intention of embracing the notion that it’s better to love and be hurt  then to not love at all. I have a hard time with negativity; there’s no light in embracing somethng that hurts more than it helps, and the mindset of using energy towards something like hate really bothers me.There is more beauty in the moments you spend loving someone else than there is in hating anyone. Life is to short too wear something that doesn’t make you feel beautiful and it’s definitely too short to hate someone else, or to hate yourself for that matter.

Here’s the bottom line. Love as much as you can. Wear what you want; wear what makes you feel like a god/dess .I’ve been wearing a lot of makeup because my job at Zara makes me wear a uniform and guess what?! It makes me feel good. Wear as much makeup as you want because the only opinion that matters is your own. Find the good in people and ADMIRE it. Look to the people who have hurt you for growth and realize that no one is perfect. Let success humble you. let others hurt and anger remind you to keep your heart soft and forgiving. Be empathetic towards those who can’t let go of what has caused them to break.

There is no joy to be found in hatred. Indulge in an excess of love. Love more, love deeply and love fully.



Menswear Monday: Inspired by Sri Ganesha

One of the reasons I’m so drawn to yoga is because of the philosophy, and how rooted yoga is in Hinduism and Hindu mythology. Hinduism is littered with beautiful stories of how the world came to be, of why our spirits are how they are, and stories of the hundreds of gods and goddesses that are in the Hindu pantheon. The two main deities in the Hindu pantheon are Shakti and Shiva; the supreme god and goddess that all the other gods and goddess are representations of. Shakti and Shiva represent the god and goddess in each of us; the feminine and masculine power that is alive and innate in every single one of our souls. One of my favorite gods in the Hindu pantheon is the elephant head god, Ganesh. Ganesh iconography and imagery is everywhere nowadays, and for good reason. Ganesh is the guardian of doorways and the remover of obstacles. He is the god of auspiciousness; he is the promise that yes, things will be okay; he is the promise that one door closing most certainly means another opening.

So why does this god have the head of an elephant? There are many myths surrounding the origin of his elephant head, but perhaps the most popular is the one that follows. In most myths, Ganesh is the son of Pavarti (a form of Shakti) and Shiva. One day, while Pavartia was taking a bath, she asked Ganesh to guard the door. Well, Shiva came home while Ganesh was obeying his mothers orders, but Shiva didn’t recognize Ganesh as his own, so CHOP, he cut off his head. Pavartia was furious, obviously, and made Shiva take the head of the first animal he crossed paths with. Shiva came back with  the head of a strong, powerful, elephant and the image of the classic elephant headed god was born.


Channel Ganesh and wear something inspired by his home country. Wear bright reds, oranges or yellows (Ganesh is usually depicted in a very colorful manner). Try some red drop waist pants with a soft, loose tee shirt  (10 points to Gryfindor if it has an elephant on it), and slip on some Chelsea boot to finish up the look. Grab a pendant with Ganesh on it to serve as reminder that you can overcome any  obstacle, and slip on a black windbreaker to keep cool and collected while you do so. 5 x 7 Hortence J Pacadorf Elephant von GrandOleBestiary auf Etsyganesh

Drop waist pants, or harem pants, naturally have an Indian vibe to them so style em and rock em as you like. I personally like a drop waist pant with a more fitted, but not “tight”, top. Feeling really inspired by the elephant headed god? Try wearing a tee shirt with him on it. Don’t feel the vibe of harem pants or bright colors? That’s cool too. Perhaps, wear an intention to remember that Ganesh has got your back (or that the universe/ god/ goddess has got your back. We’re all praying to the same god in the end, after all.) Keep in mind that things work out as they should in the long run, and take comfort in knowing that you are a manifestation of the divine.




Five Crystals You Need to Own

I love using crystals to help channel my energy; whether I need healing and relaxation, to love more or to be more receptive of love, to be more open to the universe.. There is always a crystal that has got your back. Think of a crystal like a magnifying glass of the universe’s energy; it helps you channel whatever intention you infuse it with. I have a few pouches I keep my crystals in and I always try to keep a few in my purse; I pick the stone depending on what I feel like I need. Another amazing trick is to grab some jewlery with whatever stone sings to you! A combination of both wearing and carrying your stones is extra powerful.  Don’t know where to start with your collection? Here are five crystals to get you started. After purchasing your crystal, you need to make sure you clear it of any energies it may have accumulated (from other people touching it/from sitting…etc). Leave it under the full moon for the night, or leave it in salt for 24 hours. Salt is the smallest crystal and will absorb any energy left in your stone!

Clear Quartz

geodeClear quartz clusters amplify vibrational energy.

Clear Quartz is a great crystal that helps to purify your energy and cleanse you of negativity. It can easily be attuned to whatever intention you want to set it with, whether it’s to be more focused and centered or to connect more to your higher power. This crystal is perfect to carry around with you if you need some extra white light and positivity.


Rose Quartz

4. Heart Chakra (Rose Quartz) - Our ability to love.  Location: Center of chest just above heart. Emotional issues: Love, joy, inner peace.Prana Life | Rose Quartz

Rose quartz is connected to the crown and heart chakra; it encourages love and compassion of all kinds. Whether you need to love others or yourself more, this stone is the stone to help. I love carrying a piece of rose quartz to help me connect to the universe and all it’s love; I’m a firm believer you cannot love too much. This stone is perfect for all types of love; whether you need more compassion, healing, self love, or simply a connection to your heart chakra.



Amethyst has long been called the "sobriety stone." In ancient Rome, crushed amethyst was added to wine cups to prevent drunkenness. It is said to assist with healing alcoholism, compulsive behaviors, and addictions of all kinds. Amethyst brings energies in mystical realms of stability, peace, calm, balance, courage and inner strength. It is often used in metaphysics and crystal healing to protect against psychic attacks.❥ Lavender Amethyst Druzy

Amethyst is the ultimate stone for healing. It’s connected to the third eye and it’s a great stone for transformation. It’s a spiritual stone that’s easy to find and wonderful when you need to center, breathe and just take a moment to connect to your own intuition. I love having a piece of amethyst with me in my purse, and especially by my pillow for peaceful dreams.

Blue Lace Agate

Blue Lace Agate - Calming and uplifting, strengthens the throat chakra, Wear or carry blue lace agate for peace and happiness. Place it in your hand when you feel the need to de-stress. If you find yourself in stressful situations gaze at it for relief.  #doninorris ~ I use this one alot too.

Blue Lace Agate (rough) / Namibia

I’m human; I get angry when I shouldn’t especially at the ones I love the most; my family. I can always use a little hand on getting that under control. Blue lace agate is a powerful stone that can help ground you and lessen your anger. Blue Lace Agate is seriously powerful in aiding with communication since it has strong ties to the throat chakra. Blue Lace Agate can aid you in easing your effort with communication, whether it’s verbal or written, and it’s a good stone in aiding astral travel. Like all agates, it’s also a protective stone.



Crystals & Stones:  #Apache #Tears:    Properties: The stones are said to bring good luck to those possessing them. Black obsidian is a powerful Meditation stone. The purpose of this gemstone is to bring to light that which is hidden from the conscious mind. It dissolves suppressed negative patterns and purifies them. It can create a somewhat radical behavior change as new positive attitudes replace old, negative, egocentric patterns.BLACK OBSIDIAN Stone is a powerful cleanser of psychic smog created within your aura, and is a strong psychic protection stone.  It has powerful metaphysical properties that will shield you against negativity, and their energy may stimulate the gift of prophecy.  More information at http://www.crystalchannelers.com/blog/crystal-healing---obsidian/

Obsidian is pretty much the ultimate stone to protect you from negativity. If you’re constantly surrounded by negative people or situations (and you can’t control it), please PLEASE stock up on obsidian. Obsidian the equivalent to a bubble of white light, grounding you and helping you to embrace your whole self. This stone will not only keep negativity away but it will become a sort of shield for your own mind, body and soul; it helps protect you spiritually and metaphysically. Obsidian is a great stone with transformation too since it’s magma that cooled to quickly to form glass. Obsidian helps us understand that sometimes we need change to grow into our own power and strength.

What is it you want in a stone?!



The Hanged Man

Perspective is everything. Much like judgment, how we see things has a huge impact on our lives and our realities. We may feel stagnant, but the truth is we are not; we are creatures of the universe, constantly evolving. As our lives change, so must our perspectives. This idea is present in the 12th card of the tarot deck, The Hanged Man. This card reminds us to change our perspective, let go of ego, and embrace the sort of rebirth we feel when we see things in a  new light. The Hanged Man is a great reminder to listen to our intuition, and stop resisting what is. Just like the bat uses echolocation to see, we are reminded to use our intuition in the same respect.

When I draw this card in a reading, I am reminded to step back, see every possibility and then tune in to my own intuition to see  how my perspective can change.  There is no wrong or right in this life, things just are as they should be. I chose a floral shirt to represent growth and rebirth and a slick leather style skirt to represent how we must let judgments pass over us without resistance. The darker color pallet and oversize knit shawl were inspired by the aesthetic of the card itself, which shows a bat hanging upside down. I was inspired by pieces that make me feel powerful, intuitive and strong.

Shawl and Shirt: Urban Outfitters/ Skirt: Topshop/ Necklacce: Zara/ Shoes: Jessica Simpson

Shot by the amazing Mary DeCrescenzio. Tarot deck is The Wild Unknown.

What do you need to change your perspective of?



Mindful Monday

It’s Monday. It’s the start of a new week  and it’s the perfect time to reset your energetic clocks to tick with mindfulness and intention. It’s so easy to slip into an automatic and unconscious mindset when the momentum of day to day life gets really busy, but it’s important that we remember to return to our natural state of consciousness. It’s so easy to let autopilot take hold when you’re interacting with others, or even yourself, and it’s easy to get caught in a negative mindset if things don’t seem to be going well. There are some things you can do to make sure you’re able to indulge in life with an open and eager heart though!

It’s important to reiterate this simple step because it’s easily forgotten. I get it, sometimes things happen and they hurt us, and they tear us apart. There’s always more than one perspective though; did you learn from the experience, are you stronger because of it? Did you learn you needed to surround yourself with other people?  Being alive is a gift in itself; try so see the positive in the situation and things will get better, I promise. Think of the universe as a giant magnet; whatever you’re thinking or feeling is only attracting more of that same thought or feeling to you. See the positive in everything and you’ll have more positive experiences.

Surround yourself with people who only let words rooted in love leave their lips. Only let words of love leave your lips. There is nothing big or impressive in belittling someone else, it says eons more about your character than it does theirs. Today, make an intention to be mindful of what you say about others. Are your words rooted in ego? Do you speak negatively about others because of your own insecurities? Shower others in love. Live a life that’s abundant with love in every form. Now apply this to how you think of yourself. Do you put yourself down whenever you look in the mirror? Do you put yourself down? Show yourself some compassion and love. You are much more than just your body; you are a radiant soul that deserves your kindness and appreciation more so than anyone else.

We have this tendency to label situations as good or bad, positive or negative. The reality is that things just are. The situation itself has no positive or negative connotation, we’re the ones who put that weight on it. Next time something “bad” happens, try not to label it. Accept it for what it is, be thankful it happened and that you learned from it (there’s that whole gratuity thing again) and let it go. Don’t restrict yourself, or your life, to one filled with labels.  Let go of the ties you have and just be. You are so much greater than any construct you put on yourself. As soon as you label something your sticking it in a box; you’re taking away it’s opportunity to grow.  Remember how many people often label the “death” card in a tarot deck as bad, when in reality it’s a wonderful card that represents transformation? Don’t do that with your life. Bask in every possibility without putting labels on it, allow room for growth and expansion in every facet of your reality.

Stay rooted in this life and live with intention. Harm none, love more, and connect to whatever it is that draws you in. Set an intention; it can be to love more, to curse less, to live more consciously, to eat healthier or just to love yourself more. Live each and every day with integrity. Tread lightly but tread purposefully.

I find myself being bitter and resentful to those who have hurt me; I find myself holding onto anger when it does not serve me at all. I’ve been setting my intention at the beginning of my yoga classes and practices to send love to those who I’m not on the best of terms with; not for their sake, not necessarily because they deserve forgiveness, but because I deserve peace. Stop holding grudges, at your friends, family and most importantly, at yourself. Move through this life with love, with courage, with integrity, with peace, with happiness and with bravery. Let go of ego. Let go of jealousy and anger and hate. There is no worth in that which belittles others. There is no worth in that which tears you down.

Be mindful. Be loving. See the light in everyone and everything.



All photos by Mary Decrescenzio