Saturday Style::: Slips and Stripes

Sometimes you just deserve to sleep until noon and wake up as your body is ready, starting your Saturday with a slow stretch. Today was that sort of day. I woke up, made myself some breakfast and took it easy, enjoying my afternoon before slipping into a slip, some stripes and my favorite Deandri O ring choker. It’s funny, as I get older I see my interests as a child reflected more and more into what I choose to wear. I have always loved Tim Burtin, Sweeney Todd has been one of my favorite movies since I saw it in theaters when I was 13, and now more than ever I see it. I wanted to wear this slip from Ivory and it wasn’t until I finished putting my outfit together that I saw just how much Mr. Burton has influenced me. Oh that and The Craft. I cut my hair above my shoulders and now I’m feeling especially Nancy. Sick.

Super easy outfit:: Lingerie. A little cropped tee. Some kind of cool necklace. Weird sunglasses. Fun socks and some chunky oxfords. Done, done and done. Extra points if you incorporate stars and stripes into your outfit. I love wearing lingerie as real clothing- with a little manipulation and a little creativity you can pretty much double your wardrobe. This slip is floor length and I just used some safety pins to hem it a little bit. No regrets! 1 2 3 6

Slip: Forgotten Feather Vintage//Shirt: Nordstrom// Purse: Zara // Socks: Hip Wa Zee// Shoes: Target// Choker: Deandri// Sunglasses: Dynamite

Wear something good today! It’s Saturday!
Cheers,
Gabriela

Renaissance Magick on a Monday

Life is for sharing.  It’s for community, and family and friends who may as well be family. It’s about having plenty and giving in abundance. It’s about sharing love and light and space with souls who sing at your frequency. We have walked this earth many times, but we were never meant to walk it alone. You are not meant to carry your sadness or hurt or pain by yourself. You are meant to hold it along with others who also hold part of your heart. Find humans who understand this and life will be much more joyful.5I am so overwhelmingly thankful for Ivory and my sister Alexandra for this reason- they know me and care for me when I’m upset or hurt. Most of the time, thankfully, we spend our weekends in the best of moods, eating brunch, drinking coffee and taking photos. Now that Ivory has moved into her new studio, this means even more time and space for photos. BUT- there’s still no time for chill because Indie South Fair is coming to Columbia THIS WEEKEND, April 9-10. This means::: vintage, handmade goods, coffee, tintype photographs, lots of good music and GRILLED CHEESE FOOD TRUCKS. There will be so much fun and festivity and talent and you won’t wanna miss it. I will be there helping Ivory sell her precious items and I cannot wait. Come visit and you too can be a little Renaissance faery.1 3 241110131297All items are (except these Topshop jeans) from Forgotten Feather, styled by Ivory and myself. 

Anyway- Come out to Indie South Fair this weekend at 701 Whaley from 10am to 6pm for lots of fun! You can find the event page HERE. PS- Come say HELLO!

Cheers,
Gabriela 

Manifesting Stillness

I have been learning to slow down. Or trying to. I have been trying to find time for stillness. For silence. For steadiness. I am learning to find a mirrors in others, to find how my impatience is a reminder to love the parts of myself that still have to be polished like a precious crystal. I have been trying to take some time to honor the parts of me that are so frustrating and fast and unwilling to be spoken with. I am trying to find time to listen to myself when I get frustrated or anxious or sad with people or myself.FJ5A6499_resize (3)I have spent some time the past couple of nights honoring myself. I’ve taken a bath, facetimed with friends, done yoga, relaxed and watched movies. I’ve incorporated some simple rituals into this – namely this one from The Numinous. I’ve typed some words and I’ve had some breakthroughs simply because I have given myself enough space from what I feel and what is expected. I am trying to take my hands off the wheel to believe in the easiest way possible. I am learning and harnessing the powers I have as a manifester and I am using them to create. But I am learning to listen to the moments between the breakthroughs and love all the inconsistencies about them that make me so frustrated. I am writing love poems to myself on a typewriter only to mess it up because I have so many words all at once that I cannot slow down my hands fast enough to stop. I am forgiving myself for never stopping but I am learning to find a happy medium anyway. FJ5A6465resizeFJ5A6511 (1)FJ5A6510_resize2All photos by my beautiful friend Bree Burchfield.love poemToday’s words on my beautiful typewriter. I am slowing down.

SATURDAZE IN LACY LINDSEY LINGERIE

The newest collaboration in the Breathing Fashion universe is with lingerie company Lacy Lindsay, with crystals from The Hoodwitch and photos by Bree Burchfield. 

I present to you:
The perfect night in_MG_6007_resizePlans are cancelled. Your perfect “going out” outfit has gone to waste and the bottle of champagne you’ve been waiting to pop feels more morbid than it does celebratory. What’s  a girl to do?  Not one for the game of self-pity,  it seems as if a night in is in your cards. The obvious answer to any Saturday night dilemma is  lingerie, lipstick and lots and lots of lace. Why waste a perfectly good evening brooding when you could be fabulous in your favorite lipstick, leaving kisses on a giant glass of bubbly? Dress up and bathe in the glories that make you, you. Grab your crystals and keep them close, nothing says “girls night” like posing with your favorite quartz. Instead of (metaphorically) cursing the boy or girl who ruined your plans, you thank them. How else would you have an excuse to drink out of your favorite chalice while binge watching Sex and the City. There’s a silver line to everything, so you choose to tie a balloon to this line and to float somewhere fabulous and far far away. _MG_6011_img (1)_MG_6037_resize_MG_6024_resize_MG_6061-Recovered (1)_MG_6062_resize_MG_6020 copy_MG_6080_resizeHere’s the thing. Sometimes people mess up. Sometimes they let us down. But the one person who should always, ALWAYS, have your back is you. Spend your night celebrating everything that makes you the funky, weird, crazy human you are. And don’t forget to wear something good, and take photos, while you’re at it. _MG_5983_resize (2)
All lingerie:: Lacy Lindsey// Crystals:: The Hoodwitch// Black shag jacket:: Disturbia// Leopard jacket:: Zara

All photos by Bree Burchfield 

HELLO CALIFORNIA

Oh California!! It’s been such a lovely few days so far. I flew in on Friday, went to La Jolla for lunch, saw some seals and took in the sights. On Saturday we drove to LA to spend the day with what may as well be our family. When you’ve known the same people since you were 2, and you call their parents mom and dad and you’ve stayed in contact even though you’ve spent more than half your life on opposite coasts…you’re family. Seeing everyone was incredible, and being back in LA for the last time before I graduate college has left me feeling every feeling, all at once. 1LA has always been a very weird place for me energetically.  I was super attached to Los Angeles growing up. We moved to our home in Woodland Hills when Alexandra and I were 2, and I spent the next five years in little Gabriela,  90s Aquarius child style euphoria. My days were most enjoyed biking around the cul-de-sac, licking coffee Popsicle from the Mexican supermarket down the street and bathing in giant plastic tubs outside. Our house had the most beautiful garden, with an arbor filled with roses., that occasionally led to the most magnificent inflatable kiddy pool I had ever seen. It was always so scary running through the triumphant arc into the garden- the probability of stepping on a thorn always felt exponential, but it was a risk I was always willing to take. I don’t know how to describe this bliss spent under the blue California skies. It was punctuated by trips to Baskin Robbins listening to the Spice Girls on blast and playing on the jungle gym of our temples preschool. There were trips to Emily and Amanda’s, once I missed a play date and was so jealous because Emily and my sister collected pine cones and turned them into pets.5 4I think I’ve always been a weirdly spiritual child and it wasn’t until I got back to California that I was able to really connect to this energetically.  My childhood was colored by the backyard of my family friends. The same ones that I spent this past weekend with, laughing and crying over home videos.  I went outside to the garden (pictured above, duh) and it was just strange. Weird. Different. Realizing you’ll never be able to accurately describe your childhood experiences to anyone else and realizing you’ll never be able to relive them is weird. It’s heavy.  The eclipse and Supermoon are inviting me to step back into that curiosity, the unyielding joy I felt as a child. I accept. And I think I am being invited to bask in silence. To listen. To enjoy the moments between this phase and the next.3LAObviously I chose to go to LA in all black- with this tank top I left here over Winter Break. I am very excited to have it back. I have had these wooden soled boots from Zara for YEARS and I love them. And my denim jacket and Bolo tie felt like the final touch. The key to being energetically confused? A good outfit. I swear to god/dess if you have something you feel confident, sexy and capable in, you will always feel grounded. That’s a secret, one that I am writing at 10pm from me to you. Use it wisely. If your auras in a funk or if you’re in an emotional turbine, wear something that makes you feel like the bad b**** you are. On Monday I got my wisdom teeth out, which means I spent the day in bed, eating ice cream and watching Harry Potter.  I never need an excuse to do these things, but having one was refreshing. Yesterday I finally got out of the house for some lunch and coffee, to work on my latest pieces for Nylon and Broadly, and to generally enjoy San Diego. Andale.naturalI also tried to do the whole “natural” makeup look  thing yesterday and I’m not hating it! Of course I had to wear my zodiac shirt, you know because of the Supermoon and Eclipse. All the normal universal shenanigans going super speed and really hard. Today was spent at the doctor and eating at an amazing cafe in Del Mar, where a lovely lady from USC comes up to me and goes “Are you Gaby?!” Is this an existential riddle? AM I Gaby? Or am I just, Gaby. These are the thoughts that plague my mind. Anyway, yes- Gaby is me as I am she. Apparently she recognized me from a coffee shop I frequently visit in Columbia- and she said her friend follows me on Instagram. HA! How cool. It’s a small world. 12801205_10153285433101207_8413695245791993442_nAfter lunch, my mom, Alexandra and I went to the Self Realization Fellowship meditation garden. If you’re in San Diego- GO.  The garden is absolutely phenomenal. I definitely cried at all the beautiful flowers and their sweet faeries and the view. You walk up stairs through the most vibrant garden only to be greeted by the never ending song of the ocean and the most overwhelming view of the sea. The sun was shining and kissing my cheek. I turned my phone off and just spent time talking to the flowers, looking at all the cactus and just listening to mother nature. One of my favorite flowers was a cactus with huge spikes and the most delicate, vibrant pink flowers blooming at the very tips of the plant. You know how sometimes you just get a plant? Me too.  The garden was incredible, and after we had to visit the gift shop (duh altar tressures) and guess what I got?  A COMIC BOOK ABOUT GANESH AND ANOTHER ABOUT THE BHAGAVAD GITA. I had to. I am not sorry. Today was lovely, partially because I was singing along to the Beatles with my mom while we took in some beautiful views and partly because my face may still be a bit swollen but I put on makeup anyway.8car views7Sometimes it’s even the little things like exteriors of houses that remind you of what it feels like to love someone truly and deeply.


I hope you each find some peace today.
Until next time,
Gabriela 

FEBRUARY IN REVIEW

It’s March. A NEW MONTH!! THAT MEANS ONE THING! CELEBRATE. 
I was super inspired by Mystic Mamma’s post for March with words by Lena Stevens from The Power Path.com It’s all about owning your power and using it to align yourself  with your highest good. A sneak peek at some of its goodness: 
“We must therefore decide at the beginning of the month, what side we want to be on: chained to old habits and obstacles or committed to finding new ways through the familiar challenges we face. This decision, more important than words can say, will shape the next six months and color our every waking moment, so best choose well! Instead we must get to know our feelings: how they arise, their triggers, their patterns and, most important of all, how we create, perpetuate and manage them.”

One of my favorite photos ever. Taken by Bree Burchfield. Blog post to come.

Whew. I don’t even know where February went, but my god did it go fast. February was a powerful month- an incredible one, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who was feeling all the vibes, and all at once.  February was a whirlwind- I turned 22, I started writing for NYLON (oh my god). I just submitted my third piece and I cannot WAIT for it. I am still freaking out about this. Harry Potter and witchcraft?! 11-year-old Gabriela is sobbing.12802974_10153270217871207_1279491026661285923_n 12806246_10153270217521207_1236613272635564711_n (1)

 

February was also great for wanderlust. For Valentines Day, my friend Bree and I headed to Asheville to cover  Unknown Mortal Orchestra  for Scene SC. She took care of photos, I took care of words. It was blistering cold but it was absolutely beautiful, and of course, turned out to be an adventure. It was lovely spending my Valentines Day with one of my favorite humans and one of my favorite bands. Also, the drive didn’t disappoint. 

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February was also spent dressing up and taking photos of the process. Bree took these, and I styled them, and I am so excited about it. This is just a sneak peek, these photos deserve their own post! 

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And I also started contributing to The Hoodwitch! My first post is “Five Ways to Let Out Your Inner City Witch.” I always wanted to have a cabin in the middle of the forest with herbs hanging from the ceiling and a hearth and giant cauldron. That hasn’t happened yet, so I wrote about utilizing the city for some magick. You gotta use what’s at your disposal! city witchAlso, I had another tweet featured in Nylon! And it’s about reincarnation. The first one was about my soul having an orgasm, so obviously Nylon gets me.10259354_10153259806641207_6526212192454598829_nFebruary was spent forgiving and writing and growing and just trying to make the most out of this strange and wonderful world. I’ve been really into wearing scarves in my hair, I’ve been super inspired by forgiveness and I’ve been doing my best to be compassionate. With the New Moon next week, Pisces season and eclipse season beginning, I’ll be doing my best to carry on these intentions into March.12783793_10153257992706207_3441465631442042127_o459I’ve also been super into selfies, but when am I not? 12800139_10153270217561207_4360065430487857975_n12717644_10153250719341207_4258170483599162978_n12809545_10153266160441207_478026792976039153_n21And outfit selfies too. Duh. I’ve been really into my outfits and I think that’s a wonderful sign- why the HECK would you waste your time on a bad outfit?! Life is too short. I don’t think Columbia gets my style, so I share it with the internet so my outfits don’t go to waste. Also I love modeling and an outfit that shoots well is the best!

I’ve also been writing on my typewriter (which has a twister ribbon that I need to fix. Sigh) Anyway, I decided to share a personal favorite. brokenI really dislike the idea of “finding another half” or finding someone that completes me. I am complete. I am a universe. I am whole.  The day that someone comes along who changes my world, I hope they build a castle on level ground. They will not need to fill any gaps or fill any holes- they will add to me. They will find me and bask in my light and my dark, they will be a sun to my moon.  Darkness is not evil. Darkness, to me, is the unknown- it is a feeling, a place to wander to in dreams and in art. It is the subconscious, everything that cannot be understood completely without a sense of intuition and vulnerability. THAT is what I love about this life. There is always more to experience and learn. Living at a surface level, to me, is cheating yourself out of one of the most extraordinary experiences you can have- this is not the end. This is one piece of a puzzle we will never be able to truly comprehend. And THAT is tonight’s rant.

I leave to California on Friday and I already have a few fun things planned. But all the fun comes after Alexandra and I get our wisdom teeth out. HA! Also, the job hunt has officially began!
Here’s to March!
Cheers,
Gabriela

RELEASE IT BABE:: A RITUAL FOR THE VIRGO FULL MOON

It’s the Full Moon! And the Full Moon in Virgo, with sun in Pisces at that.  This Full Moon is asking us to look at the details, to look at things logically and then step back and listen to our intuition. We’re meant to listen to both sides, to clean up and organize and to surrender from a place of truth, both mentally and spiritually. This morning, I ended up staying in bed longer than anticipated simply because my body was so tired and my dreams were so heavy. I woke up feeling a little bit groggy, but still managed to put on something that made me feel mystical.  I also performed a really beautiful Full Moon ritual which I will be sharing below- so keep reading!1532143_10153255200466207_551401841883243153_n

One of my favorite parts about the Full Moon is all the wisdom I get to soak up. I love reading what Hannah Ariel has to say about each moon over on The Numinous. Today’s favorite-

“So much of this is about simply adjusting what we do and with whom we do it. Every circumstance that has outstayed its welcome will complete itself now. Every circumstance that needs to be salvaged will begin to be fixed. You will know which is which because at this time, our intuition will express itself as simple common sense. We find what FEELS out of alignment and we have a golden opportunity to get CONSTRUCTIVE about it. Also be mindful that this Virgo Full Moon means we will feel every nook and cranny of our current reality.

We will be pulled into our bodies. Our nervous systems will speak to us clearly. We will receive acute signals that have the power to change everything. Pay attention to ALL your interactions and all your experiences this week, and listen to how they make you feel. This will be as simple as noticing what is really happening and what really needs changing – for good, for the future’s sake”

Another favorite- Mystic Mamma‘s Full Moon posts, this one specifically, by Sarah Varcas

“If we allow our minds and hearts to be absorbed in thoughts and feelings of loss, regret, disappointment, recrimination or blame then we may struggle now, sensing that life is so far beyond our control that any effort to continue on is lost in the chaos of life out of balance.

“If, however, we open our hearts to the cooling rain or warming sun, the subtle movement of the seasons who, in following their own nature remind us how to follow ours, we will find support from Mother Earth herself.”

All of this holds a lot of truth to me, especially today. I actually think I have some kind of throat virus, so I’ll be taking myself to the doctor tomorrow- listening to my body and honoring it? Check. My sister Alexandra surprised me with a typewriter last week, which I got fixed and it’s absolutely beautiful. But as I was typing after my full moon ritual, the ribbon got twisted- which means another stop back to get it fixed.12743889_10153255200441207_3686802186085872571_n

And you know what? That’s just the kind of little errand that I let stress me out. And if there’s anything I can learn from this Full Moon it’s to listen to the bigger picture. To let go of that little nagging sense in my gut that GOSH I have one more thing to do (including going to the post office!) Instead? I will choose to be humbled- I have plenty of time to get everything done.

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One of the things I will be working on this month is to meditate and write more. I love having my typewriter, which I named after my grandmother Rose. There’s such a sense of intense presence that I love about using it. Not being able to fix my mistakes means having to go back and see how I can use the imperfections to my advantage.

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Anyway, I finished a piece for Broadly two days early and I watched the last episode of this season of The X-Files, so this Full Moon wasn’t bad at all. I have shared my ritual for tonight below. Let me know what you think!

Full Moon in Virgo Ritual 

Start with a shower or bath::: My bathtub doesn’t fill all the way with hot water (and it’s a bit dirty…yuck) so I decided to take a shower. I used my lavender soap bar and my lavender salt scrub, both from Trader Joes, and really focused on cleansing myself. I had a mantra going, something along the lines of ” I let go of any patterns that no longer serve me.” Once I was done showering I gave myself a little treat of essential oil, made by my friend Jeremiah of The Bearded Bastard,  they’re venturing into women’s perfumes and oils and dear lord. They’re amazing.  As a woman, the Full Moon is especially important- it’s a cyclical time when we can connect to Goddess. Honor your own universe, honor your body and give thanks to it. This can be anyway you like BUT a bath or really long, intentional shower feel especially yummy.

Next comes a tarot reading::: I have been slacking REAL hard when it comes to doing own tarot reading, besides a daily one card pull and an occasional three card pull. I decided I would finally do my year long tarot spread- a card for each month, and one for the overarching theme of the year. I saged myself and my deck and then started. I recorded each month, what card I pulled and my basic interpretation and thoughts in my Book of Shadows. Being able to go back and see January and February was interesting and it was also relevant in my case- I pulled the Knight of Cups,  reversed, for February, and something really interesting popped into my head.
You cannot be envious on someone on the other side of the doorway if you’re not willing to cross the doorway yourself.
As I’ve mentioned before, I naturally get envious and jealous, and thankfully this has been much less of a problem for me recently (which is something I am just now realizing as I type this!) But this thought is still true- it is scary to see that door, because sometimes it’s beautiful and grand and overwhelming and sometimes we don’t feel worthy of entering whatever room is on the other side. But we have to, you have to just do it and go for it. You can’t be angry at someone else for manifesting if you’re not gonna harness your own powers to manifest. So- read your cards, or don’t! Do whatever feels right FOR YOU. You are the only you that you have- so listen to you!!

Follow this with a fire ritual::: My wonderful friend Kelsea showed me the Moon + Quartz Moon Guides, and they are amazing. I was inspired by their ritual of writing down all the patterns and habits you want to let go of this year and then burning them (a favorite past time!) I decided to do this and it was wonderful.   I wrote what I wanted to let go of ie ” I release any beliefs that I am not good enough,”  folded the paper on the crease three times and then tore it off. I then folded the strip of paper twice,  wrote the positive affirmation to what I wanted to release, ie “I am good enough”, and then folded this one last time. I did this all the way down what was left of the sheet of paper, until I felt like I covered all my bases. I took my folded strips outside with my alabaster shell and burned them. Be smart- be safe! Have some water you can use to splash on the paper if they burn too quickly. Think about what you’re letting go of as the strips burn, and focus on what you want to release for the rest of the month, as the light of the moon wanes. Release your intentions with the fire.

And finally a free write:::  I had to dump some water on my papers because they were burning too much and I live in an apartment complex. SO, I came back in, flushed the papers, washed my shell and then put my crystals in it and took it outside for the moon to cleanse. I wanted to write on my typewriter so I did! I decided to free write and just let it all out of my brain, which felt amazing. It was at the end of my writing that the ribbon of my typewriter got all twisted, which is bizarre timing, but it worked. Anyway, let go of whatever thoughts are swimming in your mind. Write yourself a love letter. Learn about what it is that makes you human. You are an amazing experience.

The energy of the Full Moon is potent for three more days- USE IT. This ritual is perfect as the light of the moon wanes and you can focus on what you want to release.

XOXO,
Gabriela

On Forgiveness

The other day I posted this on Instagram:

Tonight’s self portrait is inspired by forgiveness. I’m very much aware of my anger. Of my defensiveness. Of the way that I put up a wall when I feel threatened or hurt or attacked. I am very much aware of my imperfections like the fact that even after I let people go I still think about them and hold onto their words. Today I forgive- myself and those who hurt me. Today I am inspired by @louniverse message to forgive others not necessarily because they deserve it, but because you do. Today I forgive my inner scorpion. I forgive the little girl inside me who just wants to impress people and make everyone happy and have everyone love each other. Today I forgive the part of me that is angry and lashes out. Today I forgive myself for hurting others simply because I was hurting. Today I forgave someone who hurt me and today I forgave myself for ever hurting them back. Anyway- I am about to go shower with some lavender salt scrub and then eat cookie butter ice cream and watch a movie. 

A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on

And today I wanted to expand a bit on this beautiful, sacred, idea of forgiveness. And honestly, I’m not even sure what will come of this post, but i feel like I need to write- and I’ve learned to not ignore that itch when it comes up. So, here we go. Oh forgiveness. It seems easy but it’s hard. It’s really, really hard. In my case I forgave someone who I made myself vulnerable with- someone who saw a lot more of me than anyone else and in the end wasn’t truly worthy of that. I was hurt. I was hurt and left with no closure except that which I created for myself. And I think that’s the first step to forgiveness- allowing yourself to create the closure that YOU need. So YOU can move on. Because it’s easier to go back and appreciate a gash when it’ already turned into a scar- you do not have to live with raw pain.You are allowed to feel and heal.

 A lot of my relationships (I use this word very loosely) have ended with me having to create my closure. And forgiveness is damn hard when you don’t feel like you have any answers. But sometimes you just have to forgive, not for the other person, but for yourself, so you can let go of the rope you’re holding onto and just move forward. In my case, I was contacted by someone I had done my best to forget in the past six months and I was left with a flurry of feelings- including the fact that I felt nothing, but I still felt raw? Open? Vulnerable. Because I had never forgiven- him or myself- and that wound had never truly healed. After my inner Scorpio moon came out and I was on the offense- I felt tired, overwhelmed and over it. I had been hanging onto this hurt, this borderline hate, which honestly was necessary at the time so I could move on, but I realized- I needed to forgive him and myself. I am not completely innocent either, my hurt doesn’t excuse my action of hurting someone else. So that night, I showered, worked with my tarot and wrote. And now, I am taking baby steps to heal, fully and intentionally. But another thing came up the next night-

I did a tarot reading last night for myself and a mantra popped into my head. “I don’t need to know the answers right now”. I like knowing. I like knowing about people and the universe and myself. I’ve been going through a past life crisis (HA! A story for another time) that just brought back a lot of feelings and questions about myself and past relationships. And there were many things I wanted to know since closure didn’t give me many answers. And there’s a point in the mad quest for the truth, or for what feels like it, when you just have to stop and surrender. And that’s what I am choosing to do. I am choosing to face the wild unknown. I am choosing to not worry about the answers. My wonderful friend @kelseawoods sent me this quote by Rilke today:: “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” You don’t need to know all the answers right now. Right now you just have to be. A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on

This mantra popped into my head.
I do not need to know the answers right now.
And what a relief that is. I’ve been going through what feels like a past life crisis, I’m sure this human and I knew each other back in the Medieval period I swear to god. And I’d been having these feelings, these memories and this inclination that I was right. I wrote a piece on Medieval churches and witch marks, and then all this stuff started to overlap- how I’ve been working with witchcraft and faeries for 10 years, and then suddenly this person was back. After I had consciously made a decision not to contact him and asked the universe that if he was meant to contact me he would- and he did. And after forgiving him, after forgiving myself, I realized I do not need to know the answers. I don’t need to know if we were actually together in a past incarnation, I don’t need to know how he feels or how he felt.  All I need to know  is where I am in this moment.

And realizing that, realizing that I DON’T have to have everything figured out, feels like the biggest act of surrender I can have. We are not responsible for having everything lined up or figured out or understood. We are responsible for living in our highest purpose, for living in a place of peace and love and for working towards this as much as we can.

 

So today, I urge you all to live in a place of surrender, a place of forgiveness and a place of unknowing. Today I urge you to bask in the wild unknown.

XOXO,
Gabriela

THE 22 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 22

Today is a magical day and I don’t care what anyone else says! On this day 22 years ago, my twin sister and I were born. Now, that in itself isn’t that magical. BUT- we were both seven weeks premature, yet the two of us were born on 2/2/94- all the twos! Now to add to that, Alexandra and I turn 22 today! Our life number is 9, and guess what-2016 is a 9  universal year! Hence, today I celebrate every form of magick that comes my way by sharing some “”knowledge”” I have learned.BDAY

21 was the best year of my life. I believe in each year being better than the last, if only because you learned something from it.  21 brought a whole lot of changes- a year ago I was living in London studying at London College of Fashion- something that sank in only very recently. 21 brought letting go of people but it brought even more people into my life who I am overwhelmingly thankful for. 21 brought travel (to Greece, Italy and France nonetheless), it brought me to New York City,  where I felt at home for the first time- a feat in itself since in the five cities I’ve lived in (not counting London) I have never felt like I am home. 21 brought going to London Fashion Week as international press for Deux Hommes, an internship with Rick Owens, two internships with The Numinous, plenty of fun blog posts and collaborations, and a position as a contributor to Broadly. 21 was also the year I fell in love- with myself. Oh and 21 brought me here- to my last semester in college. What the HECK. I started this blog six and a half years ago so I could start practicing fashion writing in a more professional capacity. Now I am actually doing these things?! You guys I don’t understand what the universe has given me but I am screaming thank you into the abyss. And I am screaming an even bigger THANK YOU to the universe for giving me my twin sister.

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ANYWAY- Here are 22 things I have learned up until this point in my life. ENJOY!

1. DON’T GIVE A F*** ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK
Seriously- this is important. I’m not talking about giving up on people, or ignoring your friends opinions that have to do with your general well-being. I’m talking about caring about what the random people around you think about you- about your opinions or values or clothes, whatever. This is not an excuse to be racist, misogynistic…etc!! But if you are working in YOUR highest favor, serving YOUR highest purpose, wearing something that YOU love, listening to music YOU like- other peoples opinions don’t matter. One of the only laws in Wicca is this- An ye harm none, do what ye will. If it doesn’t harm anyone- go for it.

2. ALWAYS TELL YOUR LOVED ONES YOU LOVE THEM
Seriously. Never go to sleep mad, and tell the people you love that you care about them.

3. IF YOU LIKE SOMETHING ABOUT SOMEONE TELL THEM
But god, please don’t be creepy about it.  THIS DOES NOT MEAN CAT CALLING. THIS MEANS APPROPRIATELY  TELLING THE GUY NEXT TO YOU IN LINE THAT HIS WATCH IS NICE or that the woman next to you has a really cool purse. Use discretion! I compliment A LOT but it’s because if I like something about someone, I want them to know it! Spreading a little cheer is never bad!

4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE
One of the problems I had in high school was way too much drama. It wasn’t until I really found my tribe in college that I was able to feel like I had a community. I’ve always kept a small group of best friends, as opposed to a large group of acquaintances, and having humans around me that GET ME has been life changing. Whether we are eating ice cream, talking about crystals, watching a drag shows or drinking coffee, I surround myself with  people who vibe at my frequency. Having best friends who are always there for me, to remind me that I am loved and that I am important  is a non-negotiable.  Having friends who I love to the end of the world and who I want to be there for is a gift. So thank you universe!FRIENDS

5. ALWAYS LAUGH AT YOURSELF
Seriously. I refuse to admit that I am “clumsy” but I do trip a lot, and your girls knocks a lot of stuff over. If I spill on someone or hurt something or someone really bad, I always say/ feel very sorry. BUT if I am just tripping while I walk to class, I will easily be the first to laugh at myself. Life is way, way to short to always take yourself seriously. Laughing is the best medicine, and if you give yourself permission to make mistakes-and if you don’t get angry when they happen (you are human after all), then life gets a little easier.

6. WORK FOR PEOPLE WHO TRULY APPRECIATE YOU
Working and interning remotely has the potential to either be incredible or very difficult, depending on the level of communication needed between you and your boss. I have had the most incredible experiences working under some amazing editors like Amy at Deux Hommes and Ruby at The Numinous. The one time I was in a position as a contributor and I was unhappy, I quit- thankfully, there weren’t really any strings, or money, attached so it was easy. But that experience has shown me how incredible it can be to work under people who DO appreciate me. Honestly, being passionate and loving your job is also super helpful and important and it’s a privilege that I hope everyone has. Working for a company that treasures your worth is crucial- don’t settle for someone who doesn’t see you as human. You are worth more.NUMI

7. HUGGING TREES IS THE BEST
If you’ve never hugged a tree you are missing it. It is magical. Trees carry so much wisdom in them. I love faery folklore and Dryads are one of my favorites (they are nymphs that inhabit forests and trees!)

8. BE THE PERSON DANCING THE HARDEST AT THE SHOW
I didn’t go to parties in high school. Instead, my best friend and I would go to local shows almost every weekend.  I am not musical at all, but if I hear a good beat, god save me. If someone was trying to torture me they would just tie me down and play some good music so I was physically restrained from moving my body. Whenever we went to shows, I would be the girl dancing like a loon. I’m still the same- I dance my butt off and I’ve had people take photos and Iaugh but guess what- IT DOESN’T MATTER. Dancing for me is physical embodiment of bliss. I will never apologize for that.

9.READ GOOD BOOKS
I am so overwhelmingly thankful that my parents passed on their loves of books to both my sister and me. My mom and dad were always reading us books and telling us stories growing up- my mom even tried to read Alex and I Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone when we were 5 (which was too confusing at the time, but we read it by ourselves two years later). This lifelong fascination with books is what led me to witchcraft, to fashion journalism and to AP Lit and AP Lang- and John Steinbeck, my favorite author and probably my twin flame. I prefer a physical copy of a book- I love the smell of old books, being able to take them with me and write in them and throw them across the room if I get angry at them. Portable readers aren’t the same thing to me.

10. BUY YOURSELF PRETTY LINGERIE Starting a collection of vintage lingerie has boosted my self-love to another level. Nothing makes me feel like a princess more than lounging in bed in my satin onesie watching The Twilight Zone. Investing in one piece of lingerie to wear when you’re sad and need to be reminded that you are a QUEEN is honestly so worth it. I will ALWAYS recommend my babe Ivory for vintage lingerie. I have 20+ pieces and almost all of them are from her.22 11. PET ALL THE DOGS Hello this is a PSA that you should pet dogs when you see them (AFTER YOU ASK THE OWNER AND THEY SAY IT’S OKAY!!) One of my favorite parts about my home away from home here in Columbia, Drip Coffee, is that they allow dogs into their establishment! This means I get to live vicariously through every pup I see, since my own pooch is on the West Coast. Animals in general are so healing and wonderful and just LOVE THEM!

13. HAVING A TWIN IS THE BEST
I just wanted to publicly acknowledge how thankful I am for my sister Alexandra. She lives with me, deals with me every single day and still loves me. She is one of the most intelligent, compassionate and talented humans I have ever known. She is beautiful inside and out, and she deserves every good thing the world has to offer her. We haven’t always been this close, but I am so glad that I have her and such amazing parents in this life. If you have siblings and are lucky enough to see them, tell them you love them. 

12.IT’S OKAY TO NOT KNOW WHERE YOU’RE GOING
Honestly the fact that I know what I want to do as a job is weird. It is not the norm, as much as your parents are trying to tell you otherwise. Here’s the thing- it is okay to not know where this life is taking you. It is okay to not know where your passions lie. If you’re not sure where you’re going, don’t be complacent- use this as an invitation to explore and travel and make memories and chase whatever it is that may be calling you. Take a gap year after college to travel around Europe or go on a road trip. Start a blog, find a new hobby, walk around. It’s okay to not have it all figured out- no one does. Some people can just hide it better than others.

14. FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS A JOURNEY There’s a whole lot of talk about self-love which is so important and worthy and necessary. BUT- here’s the thing that I think needs to be reiterated. IT IS A PROCCESS. AND IT AIN’T EASY. You know yourself better than anyone else and this means being hyperaware of every “fault” that you have. You’re probably (definitely) going to tear yourself up about something you said or did on multiple occasions and you’l probably criticize your apperance. But starting a journey to self love is taking baby steps- having these moments, criticizing yourself and then moving past it. Criticizing yourself less and less, comparing yourself to others less and less and appreciating yourself a little more each day. It means taking steps to forgive yourself because the faults you think you have aren’t faults at all- they are what make you human. Falling in love with yourself is a journey- one that is necessary because YOU deserve your unyielding admiration, love and respect more than ANYONE ELSE. Write it in big letters and stick it on your wall. Remind yourself of this everyday. I was talking to my soul sister Kelsea about all the goals I had set when I was 21. I was telling her how I accomplished all of them (WEIRD) except I didn’t fall in love. She immediately asked if I had fallen in love with MYSELF because that counts. Hell yes.

15. WEAR SHOES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN KILL A MAN
Your girl loves her heels, shamelessly, and let me tell you- wearing shoes that make you feel powerful is the bees knees. Think about it- for most of us, our feet are our direct connection to this earth- to how we LITERALLY walk through this life. I’m gonna wear something that makes me feel powerful, beautiful and NOT to be messed with, amen.

 

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16. THERE ARE VERY FEW THINGS RED LIPSTICK CAN’T FIX
I bought my first tube of red lipstick when I was 15 or 16, British Red from Revlon or something along those lines. It took me a couple of years to grow into it, but when I was 17 my mom gave me her empty MAC containers and told me to pick out an orangey-red lipstick. So Chaud became my go to lipstick which I wore basically everyday. I transitioned to Lady Danger when I got to college (a little brighter of a shade), and now I tend to wear different colors every day. BUT- red lipstick still trumps all. It is the best, like an ego booster in a tube. I think everyone should have a tube of a red lipstick that suites them.

 

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17. BLACK IS THE NEW BLACK
I dare you to wear a good outfit in head-to-toe black and tell me you don’t feel powerful and sexy. I stand by my black on black obsession. I also stand by the fact that there is nothing that will ever be the new black. Black is the only black.black

18. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO FAIL BUT NEVER STOP TRYING
I have failed plenty of times in this life. But here’s the thing, you have to suck it up, laugh about it and keep moving forward. Your worth is inherent- it is not based on how well you do, or don’t do, something. Giving yourself permission to fail is important- but get up and keep moving.  The universe is always working in your highest favor, but sometimes it speaks in a language you haven’t learned yet. One door closing means another is about to open- but you have to move out of one doorway into the next to be able to turn the knob. 

19. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
I was super uncomfortable with myself for most of my life. It wasn’t until I turned 20 that I started to really grow into myself, and love myself and truly appreciate myself.  I was always super lanky, and I’ve always looked way younger than I am and I never felt like I was who I wanted to be. Throughout all of this though, I knew that for other people to love me, and for me to love other people, I had to love myself. Even though I felt awkward and weird, I was still learning to love myself. My mom was always big on that golden rule- love yourself first- and it’s been one of the most important things I have ever learned. 38

20. CELEBRATE
Life is too short to not celebrate. It’s the weeekend? CELEBRATE! It’s your birthday? CELEBRATE! You got an A on an exam? CELEBRATE!! You found the pair of Prada pumps that you’ve been searching for since SS14? CELEBRATE. You’re ALIVE- life itself is a giant excuse to party. Enjoy it.

21.GOOD SAFETY PINS ARE LIFE CHANGING
Ivory turned me on to sewing quality safety pins so I could make things fit a little better and let me just say, it has been life changing. My quality of life has improved drastically now that I have a thing of safety  pins at my disposal. Now none of my skirts or shorts gap, I can turn shirts and sweaters into cropped shirts and sweaters, and my wardrobe just feels a little bit more punk. Perfect.

22. HAVE FUN
HAVE SOME DAMN FUN. YOU SHOULD HAVE AT LEAST FIVE MINUTES EVERYDAY AND THAT IS AN ORDER. AMEN.

 

CHEERS TO 22 YEARS,
Gabriela

FLEXSUS STUDIOS PRESENTS::: BOTANICAL FRAGMENTATION

One of the coolest parts of the internet, at least to this lady, is its ability to create a global community. I have met some of my best friends through the internet and I’ve been able to work with some incredible people and brands because of it as well. Although it can feel isolating when this internet love turns into obsession, the potential for collaboration and community that the internet brings is truly incomparable.

Today’s post is special and different and, more than anything, exciting. My good friend Morgan approached me with this incredible video that her friend Sarah Prinz, of Flexsus Studios, choreographed and danced in. She knew I would love it- and she was right.

Botanical Fragmentation merges the creativity of Sarah alongside director Trevor Osmond, and pairs this with designs from Polish born Agnes Hamerlik. There’s an exquisitely unnerving quality to this video, with stark movements and choreography juxtaposed alongside delicately  decadent dresses. Blood red designs feel eerie adorned with floral embellishments and there’s a sense of decadence when this is followed by midnight black sequined chiffon. Sarah’s performance, her craftsmanship, brings these dresses to life- allowing a visual exploration of what it means to be human and to move through this life in your own skin. There’s an Alexander McQueen-esque quality to this piece- bold in its beauty with an underlying motif that the masks we wear only serve us if we let them.

Find out more about Flexsus at www.flexsusstudios.com  and reach them at flexsusstudios@gmail.com. The studio is always looking to collaborate.

Find more of Agnes Hamerliks designs at www.agneshamerlik.com.