5 EASY WAYS TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART WHEN IT’S HURTING

First off- my heart, my thoughts, my prayers- my everything- are with the Black community and people of color. I don’t know what it’s like but I am here. I am listening. I see you and hear you and feel you and love you. I pledge to be an advocate, an ally and a help in any way, shape or form I can. To all my witchy mama’s and papa’s- you can do this spell from Story By Tarot or this ritual from The Hoodwitch if you feel helpless and don’t know what to do.

It is important to stand up when you see injustice. See a call for action and take it- talk to your politicians, call out racism and don’t be afraid to use your voice (this especially goes for white people! We are the ones who need to be carving out a space for everyone. That is not the conquest of the oppressed.)

BUT- don’t forget to take care of your own needs in the process. You must tend to your own heart before you can tend to the world. Self care in times of political and economic crisis are of the upmost importance. When you are scared of blooming, when you are too frightened to find the sun, you cannot give your light to anyone else.

 

Here are 5 easy ways to take care of your own heart when it’s hurting.

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1. Buy yourself flowers (or something beautiful)

You can spend under $5 (hello Trader Joes) and still get a beautiful bouquet. Or, you can go to your local farmers market and get yourself a bunch of weird flowers while still supporting your community, which is where I got the babes pictured above! Even if you’re not interested in the metaphysical properties of flowers, I swear- buying yourself some will make you feel better. There is something so soothing about the temporary beauty and soft spirit that comes with flowers. They look like magick, they’re effortless, they smell good and you can dry them. I always like to take self portraits when I buy flowers which leads us to…

2. Make art

Create something. Take a self portrait, write a poem. It doesn’t even matter if it sucks- just try. Enjoy the process. Get messy- finger paint , sculpt, make daisy chains. It doesn’t matter but I promise once you start to make something you’ll feel better. And, if your artwork turns into something beautiful, even better. Art is a physical manifestation of love, right?

3. Watch something funny

My pick is “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.” There’s something so comforting about how horrible the gang is. Laughter heals- it’s medicine. Laugh until your stomach hurts, laugh until you cry, laugh until you fart, laugh until you snort- this is a no judgment zone. Just make sure you laugh.

4. Clean

I hate cleaning. Seriously. I think it’s the worst. My definition of success is  being able to afford to hire someone to cook and clean for me. When my heart is upset (hello, today) I do like to clean! When your thoughts feel disorganized and heavy and dirty- cleaning is spiritual, both physically and energetically. Physically clearing your space allows your energy to relax. It clears the muck, it allows your aura to flow. Physically seeing the results of cleaning your environment gives your subconscious permission to do the same. Having a fresh space just feels better. Added bonus points if you smudge or burn incense when you’re done. It feels so good and even if it doesn’t- at least it’s clean!

5. Tell someone how much you love them

Take the time to text or call someone and tell them how much they mean to you. Then go deeper- why. How have they helped you evolve and learn about yourself? Tell someone why you love them and then tell them again and again. Have no one you want to talk to? Write a love letter to yourself. Passing on love makes your heart stronger. If you cannot receive love, give it until it comes back. It will come back.13620373_10153550675866207_7913389384887855294_nA crow flew by and this appeared as I began to write- what a beautiful omen. There is always light.

What’s your favorite way to heal?
XXXX
Gabriela

SATURDAZE IN LACY LINDSEY LINGERIE

The newest collaboration in the Breathing Fashion universe is with lingerie company Lacy Lindsay, with crystals from The Hoodwitch and photos by Bree Burchfield. 

I present to you:
The perfect night in_MG_6007_resizePlans are cancelled. Your perfect “going out” outfit has gone to waste and the bottle of champagne you’ve been waiting to pop feels more morbid than it does celebratory. What’s  a girl to do?  Not one for the game of self-pity,  it seems as if a night in is in your cards. The obvious answer to any Saturday night dilemma is  lingerie, lipstick and lots and lots of lace. Why waste a perfectly good evening brooding when you could be fabulous in your favorite lipstick, leaving kisses on a giant glass of bubbly? Dress up and bathe in the glories that make you, you. Grab your crystals and keep them close, nothing says “girls night” like posing with your favorite quartz. Instead of (metaphorically) cursing the boy or girl who ruined your plans, you thank them. How else would you have an excuse to drink out of your favorite chalice while binge watching Sex and the City. There’s a silver line to everything, so you choose to tie a balloon to this line and to float somewhere fabulous and far far away. _MG_6011_img (1)_MG_6037_resize_MG_6024_resize_MG_6061-Recovered (1)_MG_6062_resize_MG_6020 copy_MG_6080_resizeHere’s the thing. Sometimes people mess up. Sometimes they let us down. But the one person who should always, ALWAYS, have your back is you. Spend your night celebrating everything that makes you the funky, weird, crazy human you are. And don’t forget to wear something good, and take photos, while you’re at it. _MG_5983_resize (2)
All lingerie:: Lacy Lindsey// Crystals:: The Hoodwitch// Black shag jacket:: Disturbia// Leopard jacket:: Zara

All photos by Bree Burchfield 

FEBRUARY IN REVIEW

It’s March. A NEW MONTH!! THAT MEANS ONE THING! CELEBRATE. 
I was super inspired by Mystic Mamma’s post for March with words by Lena Stevens from The Power Path.com It’s all about owning your power and using it to align yourself  with your highest good. A sneak peek at some of its goodness: 
“We must therefore decide at the beginning of the month, what side we want to be on: chained to old habits and obstacles or committed to finding new ways through the familiar challenges we face. This decision, more important than words can say, will shape the next six months and color our every waking moment, so best choose well! Instead we must get to know our feelings: how they arise, their triggers, their patterns and, most important of all, how we create, perpetuate and manage them.”

One of my favorite photos ever. Taken by Bree Burchfield. Blog post to come.

Whew. I don’t even know where February went, but my god did it go fast. February was a powerful month- an incredible one, but I’m sure I’m not the only one who was feeling all the vibes, and all at once.  February was a whirlwind- I turned 22, I started writing for NYLON (oh my god). I just submitted my third piece and I cannot WAIT for it. I am still freaking out about this. Harry Potter and witchcraft?! 11-year-old Gabriela is sobbing.12802974_10153270217871207_1279491026661285923_n 12806246_10153270217521207_1236613272635564711_n (1)

 

February was also great for wanderlust. For Valentines Day, my friend Bree and I headed to Asheville to cover  Unknown Mortal Orchestra  for Scene SC. She took care of photos, I took care of words. It was blistering cold but it was absolutely beautiful, and of course, turned out to be an adventure. It was lovely spending my Valentines Day with one of my favorite humans and one of my favorite bands. Also, the drive didn’t disappoint. 

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February was also spent dressing up and taking photos of the process. Bree took these, and I styled them, and I am so excited about it. This is just a sneak peek, these photos deserve their own post! 

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And I also started contributing to The Hoodwitch! My first post is “Five Ways to Let Out Your Inner City Witch.” I always wanted to have a cabin in the middle of the forest with herbs hanging from the ceiling and a hearth and giant cauldron. That hasn’t happened yet, so I wrote about utilizing the city for some magick. You gotta use what’s at your disposal! city witchAlso, I had another tweet featured in Nylon! And it’s about reincarnation. The first one was about my soul having an orgasm, so obviously Nylon gets me.10259354_10153259806641207_6526212192454598829_nFebruary was spent forgiving and writing and growing and just trying to make the most out of this strange and wonderful world. I’ve been really into wearing scarves in my hair, I’ve been super inspired by forgiveness and I’ve been doing my best to be compassionate. With the New Moon next week, Pisces season and eclipse season beginning, I’ll be doing my best to carry on these intentions into March.12783793_10153257992706207_3441465631442042127_o459I’ve also been super into selfies, but when am I not? 12800139_10153270217561207_4360065430487857975_n12717644_10153250719341207_4258170483599162978_n12809545_10153266160441207_478026792976039153_n21And outfit selfies too. Duh. I’ve been really into my outfits and I think that’s a wonderful sign- why the HECK would you waste your time on a bad outfit?! Life is too short. I don’t think Columbia gets my style, so I share it with the internet so my outfits don’t go to waste. Also I love modeling and an outfit that shoots well is the best!

I’ve also been writing on my typewriter (which has a twister ribbon that I need to fix. Sigh) Anyway, I decided to share a personal favorite. brokenI really dislike the idea of “finding another half” or finding someone that completes me. I am complete. I am a universe. I am whole.  The day that someone comes along who changes my world, I hope they build a castle on level ground. They will not need to fill any gaps or fill any holes- they will add to me. They will find me and bask in my light and my dark, they will be a sun to my moon.  Darkness is not evil. Darkness, to me, is the unknown- it is a feeling, a place to wander to in dreams and in art. It is the subconscious, everything that cannot be understood completely without a sense of intuition and vulnerability. THAT is what I love about this life. There is always more to experience and learn. Living at a surface level, to me, is cheating yourself out of one of the most extraordinary experiences you can have- this is not the end. This is one piece of a puzzle we will never be able to truly comprehend. And THAT is tonight’s rant.

I leave to California on Friday and I already have a few fun things planned. But all the fun comes after Alexandra and I get our wisdom teeth out. HA! Also, the job hunt has officially began!
Here’s to March!
Cheers,
Gabriela