I would exist on a different planet for you. One so distant and far away, where my skin wouldn’t constantly rip at the seams. I would lose my sanity for it too, I swear, I would mend every broken piece. I think I’ve found a remedy, finally, for all the fallen teeth. One with stardust and poetry that replaces the soles covering your feet. So fix it, break it, I really wouldn’t care. Let’s move to Mars and shed our skin, you’re fallen moons and lucid dreams.
If The Lost Boys met The Craft met Interview With a Vampire, that would me right now. Or before when I shot this with my sister, obviously, since it’s almost 10pm. I shot these earlier today, before taking ugly Christmas sweater photos with the rest of the Hip Wa Zee crew. We obviously all got into it (costumes are literally our thing after all). I’m finishing up Tank Girl with the twin right now, we started it last night after flying in from Thanksgiving with the folks in California. I like blogging at night. Being awake is my thing. If you didn’t already know, I’m pretty much nocturnal as it is. I also sneeze anytime I go into direct sunlight- on average 5 to 7 times. Sometimes I feel like a vampire, and sometimes I dress like a vampire stepping into the light for the first time. It’s fine, just let it happen. I got this incredible Free People dress for $20 and haven’t given it enough love, so I had the twin capture it earlier today. I also got the Venus palette by Limecrime and am obsessed. 3 hour time changes get you feeling extra nocturnal. I wasn’t really jet lagged but I’m sure this is what it would look like if it was.
Dress: Free People/ Hot pants and bra: Urban Outfitters/ Boots: H&MAll photos by my twin Alexandra Herstik.
Happy Sunday lovers.
The semester is almost over, I’m off to California in two days to see my parents in their new place in San Diego, Thanksgiving is on Thursday and I have one semester left before I graduate. Life is beautiful and dandy, and it’s been a wonderful three and a half years so far in Columbia.
Our school’s magazine, Garnet and Black, even did a little something for me- they featured me in their “Student Spotlight” section for their latest issue. The weirdos over there thought I was cool enough to highlight- so sweet.
It’s a question that’s been on everyone’s mind since my first Lookbook days in 10th grade (or maybe it hasn’t). Gabriela, why the heck do you take outfit photos like everyday. Do you actually think people care?
Well obviously the answer is yes, the entire universe revolves around me. Duh.
Okay so maybe that’s not the truth, but besides the fact that I breathe fashion (ha!) and plan on working in the fashion industry, I also have a very valid reason as to why I get dressed up (almost) every day.
I am a very future thinking Aquarius. Talk to me at any moment and I can list off ten things I have to do before I go to sleep. I can tell you what I’ll be doing this weekend, next month, my goals for post-grad and about a million other things that have not happened or are not happening in the present moment. I recently realized that taking the time each day to pick out an outfit (and later taking a photo of it!) is a way for me to break down each day into something simple. I love clothing, I love makeup and getting dressed up and feeling fabulous. Documenting my clothing choices on the interwebs helps me find the present moment because it forces me to experience the present moment. I live each day through the filter of whatever clothing and makeup I have on, and I’m able to really feel grounded because of that as well. I don’t feel guilty for indulging this way. Why should I? I know what outfits I’ve worn so I won’t repeat them. If someones Instagram feed bothers you- UNFOLLOW THEM! Seriously. No one cares. Promise.
Who’s the baldest b @ the club (it me) #BACKATIT #SORRYMOM #SORRYGOD A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on
I was going for gothic John Galliano A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on
2 well dressed 2 b stressed Alternate caption: consistently look like I run an underground gothic mob coven A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on
A photo posted by Gabriela Lorraine (@gabyherstik) on
So to all you nay sayers, I say this. I do not care if you hate that I post like 53 photos on Instagram each day! I don’t care if you hate every single one of my outfits because I do what I do for ME. I wear what I wear for me, and to enjoy each beautiful day as it comes.
Here’s to more outfit selfies and plenty of good clothing.
Breathing Fashion and Forgotten Feather Vintage bring you GIRLS.
Sneak into the school bathroom with your best friend, ignoring the teachers who tell you that what you’re wearing isn’t up to par. You were never meant to follow their rules anyway. So you enter the world of girls, transported back to a time and place where things didn’t make any more sense then they do know (but everything was better). Wear your cardigan with pride or irony, you’re best suited for both anyway. You pass notes and smiles, and laugh when you’re told to go and change. You’re far removed and isolated, lost in a time warp from decades ago, feeding in abandoned bathrooms with sisters of different blood.
Ivory styled the both of us in head to toe Forgotten Feather. Shes a goddess.
All photos by my incredible twin Alexandra Herstik.
I’m a firm believer that people come to you when they’re meant to. As we utilize everything this new age has to offer, we are finding connection to people we were always meant to connect with- just in a modern way. I’ve talked about how full circle working for The Numinous is for me. I’ve found a whole web of powerful, mystical, witchy mama’s because of the site. Gala Darling is no exception.
I can’t remember the first time I found Gala through the Numinous, but I remember always being start struck at her presence. Here she was- a living manifestation of everything I believe in- a powerful, fashionable, witchy woman who preaches self-love to the nth degree and LIVES IT. With her slick black hair, perfect cat eye, bright clothing and lipstick and damn powerful aura, this woman is using the internet and social media to make a positive difference in women’s lives around the world.
Gala is the wonderful sort of woman who inspires truth in whoever has the pleasure of following any of her channels online. Through her blog, Instagram and Twitter, Gala has tapped into what it means to be a modern day wise women, and she’s sharing her Radical Self Love Revolution with the masses (something I hold dearly in my heart). Everything Gala believes in resonates with me 100%- she is an incredible soul who I cannot wait to meet and get lost in conversation with. I am so thankful wonderful women like her exist- here’s to finding your tribe.
I had the immense pleasure of interviewing my witchy sister from another mister for Breathing Fashion. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did. XO.
Breathing Fashion: You created the Radical Self-Love movement by literally going through it and then sending out your message to women across the globe. Was there a single moment when you were like “fuck feeling anything less than love”? Was your experience finding Radical Self-Love an epiphany or more of an awakening?
Gala Darling: It was a slow awakening. I was killing myself with my eating disorder, crying when I looked in the mirror, never went outside with bare legs, was existing on coffee alone. But when I discovered tapping (also known as EFT), it completely changed my perception of everything. It was like being reborn. Once I was able to drop my eating disorder and abandon the depression that had followed me around since I was 13 years old, the world looked totally new. I couldn’t believe it. I was so overwhelmed by the beauty of life and I think I’ve been making up for lost time ever since!
That’s not to say that everything is wonderful all the time, because of course, it’s not. But that shift in how I perceived the world has made it so much easier to look on the bright side, and see the blessing in most things.
BF: Is there a secret to a radical level of loving yourself? What’s the one thing you feel like women everywhere need to know?
GD: The most important thing to know is that you have choices, and you can do absolutely anything you want. If you never want to get married or have a baby and you’d prefer to spend your time travelling or having sexy rendez-vous or making money, that’s great! Go do that! And there’s no real secret to loving yourself: it’s an everyday practice. Choose again, choose to be compassionate with yourself, choose to be brave, choose to be your best self.
BF: How does your practice with witchcraft influence your journey with self- love, if at all? How did you find spirituality/the occult, and has this been a crucial part of your journey?
GD: Since diving back into the world of witchcraft, I’ve discovered so many more tools I can use to infuse and inform my radical self love journey. It’s a beautiful marriage. As a kid, I was always reading about the supernatural, and when I was 13 years old I saw The Craft — ha! — and shortly thereafter, bought my first book on witchcraft. I practiced for a couple of years before depression really started to crush me and being goth and miserable became more important. I rediscovered magic a few years ago and it has been totally transformative.
BF: What’s your definition of a “witch”? Is this something that has changed over time?
GD: A witch is someone who knows what they want and goes after it. A witch is someone who works with the universe rather than against it. A witch is someone who recognises that magic can be as simple as a shift in perception.
BF: What’s your “soul style”? What do you wear that makes you feel beautiful and cosmic- like you’re painting a physical representation of your soul?
GD: My style is so eclectic and changing all the time: Sunday best on acid, witchy eleganza… I love colourful dresses and psychedelic accessories, skulls and hearts, neon with black, high heels and big boots. My favourite outfit right now is a pinafore-style skater dress worn with dark lipstick, a push-up bra, high-heeled Dr Marten boots, a black beanie and my leather jacket.
BF: What’s your zodiac sign??
GD: My Sun and Mercury are Virgo, my Moon and Rising are Sagittarius, and my Venus and Mars are in Leo. Really, that sums me up perfectly!
BF: You have a jewelry collection coming up (so freaking cool, I can’t wait to buy every piece!) Any teasers on what we should expect?
GD: This is my second collection with New Zealand Mint, and this release contains lots of little magical symbols to bring more of what you want into your life… And I’m happy to report that they work! (I’ve been testing them out…)
BF: What do you do when you’re sad and need a pick me up?
GD: One-person dance parties in my living room ALWAYS make me feel good (which goes hand-in-hand with constantly seeking out new music). Working out shifts my mood every single time. And if I can’t be bothered working out, going for a walk around my neighbourhood with my camera is a great soul-salve.
BF: What’s your favorite music to dance to?
GD: Hip-hop, all day, every day. I’m always making new playlists. My Fall/Winter one is here: https://open.spotify.
BF: What’s the one secret of the universe you NEED to know?!
Earlier today I came across an article- but not any article. THIS article. One which says the “Strat’ uniform is revolutionary. For those of you who don’t live in an SEC college town with an ungodly amount of Greek life, that’s the code for sorority uniform- oversized shirt and Nike shorts. The revolution, I suppose, comes from the idea that dressing for comfort, and purely comfort, is revolutionary. The writer didn’t actually talk about this, they just put it in the title and never brought it up. So, I don’t know what’s revolutionary about wearing tee shirts and shorts. If you think dressing like everyone else, simply because it’s the easiest choice and it’s practical, is revolutionary. you’re wrong. Saying that this uniform is revolutionary is taking away from women and men like Coco Chanel, Christian Dior, Vivienne Westwood and Rei Kawakubo. You’re taking away from the importance of what we wear to express who we are, especially in terms of gender and social constructs. I’m not here to lecture you, I’m just saying you’re wrong. Fashion can be revolutionary, just not in the way you think. There’s an interesting feeling that comes with purposefully crafting the way you move through this life. If you’re able to shape the way you enter the world, if you’re ever given that opportunity and don’t take advantage- you’re missing something good. There’s a power that’s found in that sort of self- love, one that I would argue is revolutionary.You don’t need anyone else’s approval. The only person who has to be comfortable with who you are, with what you chose, with the way you live, is you. If we all loved ourselves without fail, and empowered one another to do the same- that would be revolutionary.
Carrying this self-love in the form of fashion is my personal revolution.
My revolution comes in the form of soul style. Which, for me, is finding an aesthetic representation for my soul.This means all black, bright lipstick, a half shaved scalp, beautiful lingerie and strong eyebrows. When I wear all black, I feel like there’s a silhouette and less detail- like I can be who I am without people being distracted or worried about the little things. They’re too busy taking in the bigger picture (and unintentionally feeling my vibes and aura). I feel an energetic alignment when I wear something that makes me feel connected to the night and to the universe, especially when it’s in the form of a kick-ass outfit. It is my opinion, that self-love is a radical revolution; ignoring it, is not.
Today my revolution came in the form of brunch, taking these photos with Alex, cleaning, and movie and craft night with Ivory. I wore a pink harness bra from Urban Outfitters, my Betsey Johnson earrings and a new Wet and Wild lipstick that is my current obsession (and only $2). My shirt was handed down from one of my favorite friends, and the shorts are from my work, Hip Wa Zee. Lot’s of love went into this outfit.
Team effort with the twin, in her own soul style. Alex is the best and her photography skills make me feel pretty, so thank you twin.
Here’s to a new revolution.
Here’s the Sundays with a little bit of soul (ha)
Guys it’s happened. For the first time in my 21 years of existence I’m feelin myself- completely and utterly without any damn guilt. I’ve had this sense of peace with who I am, where I am and where I’m going and that feels good! A big part of this, for me, is that for the first time I love what I’m wearing. I feel like my clothing is a conscious and visual manifestation of my soul; I feel aligned. I like to think of this as enlightened personal style, soul style if you will; a non-verbal, purely aesthetic representation of the beauty your soul feels from all the high vibe living it’s doing in this life. In my case, this means a freshly shaved head, some good lipstick, a lot of black, something slightly unexpected and a tad of something sultry. In today’s post this also means something outside of my comfort zone- color. Okay so deep green may not be a shocking color, or anything explicit, but for this gal (who feels wholly herself in head-to-toe black) it’s a step and it shall be noted. I saw this top and immediately gravitated toward the slight side boob silhouette and the folky pattern. This top reminds me of the Celts, of folklore, of the faeries. When I realized this shirt fit perfectly, I had no choice- I was in and I had to buy it. I paired the look with the most amazing and probably most important piece of jewelry I have ever received. My lovely Ivory found was telling me all about this magnifying glass necklace she had found at the flea market and I knew I had to have it. I even asked her to hold on to any Aquarius coins she found so I could pair it with the necklace. That night she got home and sent me a photo- she had an Aquarius coin and hadn’t realized it. Synchronicity anyone?? The next day she gave me this necklace- the most beautiful, yellow gold, perfect looking magnifying glass with the trusty coin right beside it. I definitely cried- it’s like a friendship horcrux, when you do something so out of love that you give your friends a little piece of your soul so they’ll always have you with them. I paired this top with my only pair of black jeans from Topshop (which I am obsessed with). my trusty fuzzy sweater and some clog like sandals. I was going for space alien 70’s chic. Shirt and shoes: Urban Outfitters// Pants: Topshop// Necklace: Forgotten Feather VintageWhat’s your soul style?
So a couple weeks ago, I had the amazing honor of being Social Decay’s “Bad Bitch of the Week”. My amazing friend Ashley, their resident blogger, wrote a piece about me which you can read here if you wish. Beyond the fact that I was crowned with this honor, I also received an amazing shirt by the brand. One which I was lucky enough to shoot with my sister Alexandra who is finally back from her adventures in California.
This past weekend I also scored big time at Goodwill with this amazing flannel which I will be wearing all the time from here on out (you have been warned). I knew instantly that this flannel and my Bad Bitch shirt were a match made in fashion hell, and I paired both with some shorts from Nasty Gal and grown up mary janes from Topshop. My twin Alexandra Herstik took all the photos (you can find her incredible photography on Instagram under @alexyael). Of course, we took some photos on the roof of our parking garage. Classic. So without further adieu, here’s me pretending to be a bad bitch. XO
There are cards that are easy to interpret and there are ones that are a bit trickier. Temperance is one of those cards that tends to stump me when it comes up in a reading. The tarot resonates in funny ways and I’m sure this is a hard card for me because it’s what I have trouble internalizing most; balance. The universe always has perfect timing, and Mercury was retrograde as I shot this look (thankfully it’s direct again!) This past retrograde was all about digging up the past, learning from the muck and moving forward… it was rough. Sometimes you have to go on and move forward and keep going with life; find your footing and balance between harsh elements. That’s exactly what this card teaches us.Temperance speaks of working with opposing elements and using them to find balance. Battle water with fire, earth with air. Temperance is a card of renewal, a flowing stream promising something better, something easier. I was so excited to shoot with my favorite, Mary Decrescenzio, after what feels like years of not working together. Although lots of rain made the waterfalls we shot at murky, it still felt perfect to shoot among the flowing water; it’s exactly what Temperance represents. This card talks about moderation, about working among the elements and not giving or taking too much. Temperance is a card of healing, of renewal. It is, more than anything, a little glimmer of hope.Temperance urges us to find a sense of honesty, of balance and a sense of purity with what we do. Not too hot, not too cold…just right. It speaks of being like the heron and find your balance and find peace in a sense of opposition. I wanted to interpret this card surrounded by water, with pieces in sweet blue and just a touch of red (lipstick always counts). I picked up this wonderful vintage teddy from my job, Hip Wa Zee, and paired it with this sweet little robe I got from my friend Ivory who runs an incredibly curated vintage shop called Forgotten Feather Vintage. I was feeling very “Secret Garden” since we took so many photos amidst the incredible foliage. All you can do in life is take little baby steps every day. Learning from the past to move forward. Learning from the fire so you know to add a little more water next time. Temperance reminds us to find our own secret garden, our own place of peace. A safe haven to remind us that once we find balance, everything else will fall into place. Here’s to a fresh start and learning from the ease of the water.
Here’s to finding balance and moving forward.