STOP THE FLOP

It has come to my attention that some of my male friends, and some of the male population of Earth, think that it’s chill to wear ye old flip flop. Oh my god can you please just NOT. Slide2

I know they may seem practical, or comfortable or like “”a good choice”” but rest assured, I’m here to tell you that’s a LIE. I don’t want to see your hairy toes!! Also- they don’t match your outfit, and that’s a promise. There are five instances in which it is apporpriate to wear flip flops. 1- If you are taking your dog out. 2- If you are at sleepaway camp. 3- If you are in a shower. 4- If you are at the beach. 5- If you are at a pool. What does this not include? Day to day activities. Why not? BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY OTHER SHOES FOR YOU TO WEAR MEN, DEAR LORD. SO- here are five other shoes that are just as easy to wear as flip flops, but won’t make you look lazy and like you don’t know how to dress well. PS- click through the labeled photos to shop XO.

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Slide5“Oh, I don’t like actually lacing up shoes or putting effort into my shoes” Men- this is no longer an excuse. The Beatles wore em, men of Britain wear em and I promise you, if you invest in a pair of Chelsea Boots women will love it oh and so will you! You’ll look dapper in with minimal effort. Pair em with your darkest wash jeans, a simple tee shirt and a leather jacket and you’re solid.

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Slide3Maybe you’re too “nonchalant” for Chelsea Boots, that’s chill. Wear some damn Vans then. You don’t even have to get the kind that lace, although they tend to look sexier and less 2009 than their checkered slip-on alternatives. But again- Vans are more comfortable, look better and require just as little effort as your damn flops. Also- look at these guys. They’re literally wearing a tee shirt and jeans and look 100 times better than any man in flops. Jeez.

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Dr. Martens are a classic and they look good on everyone. Seriously, you can get a canvas pair or a leather pair, a thick or thin soled pair. If they’re good enough for punks, they’re good enough for you. Dress em up or down, your choice. If you’re worried about your feet getting sweaty, it’s a sacrifice that will be worth it when you see how good you look.

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Slide6Again this goes out to all my minimal effort men. Have you ever stuck your foot  in a loafer or a slip-on sneaker? Probably not, or you wouldn’t be wearing your flip flops. These things literally feel like you’re wearing a slipper. And you’ll look good, almost like royalty. Seriously though, you can get these at Zara or Target or pretty much anywhere that you know, sells real shoes, and they don’t have to be expensive. You literally don’t even have to put something between your toes like a thong- and you’ll look dapper.

So men, dear men, dear men who I love, please please PLEASE.
JUST STOP THE FLOP.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE

XOXO
Gabriela

A Menswear Monday Birthday: 65

I’m all about birthdays. I’m a naturally excited person and if there’s a reason to celebrate, I celebrate. Birthdays are no exception. Today, the most important man in my life, my dad, turns 65. October 13, 1949 my amazing father was born and the world hasn’t been the same since. Let me tell you a little about my dad.

1My dad’s one of those bright and loving souls that you’re drawn to as soon as you meet. He’s definitely a Libra because besides being loving, wise, and comforting, he’s also very just and very loyal. My dad’s a rabbi and recently it’s really hit me how many lives hes touched. My dad’s everything from a mentor and counselor to a teacher and a friend. He’s a pillar in the community and it’s really humbling to realize how many people recognize just how amazing he is.

10710815_10152313362426207_7190006652490922770_nPapi Herstik has been there for my sister and I through thick and thin. He’s always the first to encourage me, always the first to tell me I can do whatever I put my mind to. I grew up in an incredibly loving and affectionate household and there has never been a day where “I love you” hasn’t been exchanged. Whether I want to talk about religion, life or fashion, my dad is always there to listen to me. My dad has always been the one to tell me that it’s okay, that life will be better tomorrow. I’m a persistent, albeit stubborn at times, and my dads own persistence in everything he does has definitely contributed to this. My dad always has the best intentions and that’s a trait that more people should have. 2My dad is the ultimate menswear inspiration. Look at him! He looks great for 65, even though he’s been bald for decades. I’m so thankful that he and my mom have taught my sister and I to take pride in who we are, in every facet. My dad can rock a pair of oxfords like nobodies business and he can carry my pup while doing it.3My dad was born to Holocaust survivors. Both my Grandma Rose and Grandpa Harry survived upwards of three years in concentration camps. Birthdays are especially important to celebrate when the odds seemed against you. The fact that my dad was born is pretty amazing. The fact that my dad is such a wonderful, beautiful, compassionate, persistent and kind soul is even more amazing. My dad is working in St.Thomas for the year so I wasn’t able to spend time with him and I wish I could have.

Papi, I love you. Thank you for being the best dad I could ever ask for.

Happy birthday, bald eagle.

Gabriela

 

Menswear Monday: Mani and the Moon

Monday’s are the best; a new start to a new week that’s chock full of endless possibility. Monday’s are also ruled by the moon; a powerhouse vessel of intuition, dreams, higher powers, that’s honored and represented by a long list of deities.

Each chapter in Blood Moon is associated with a phase of the moon. A pic - like these - will appear under the chapter number and heading.

For today’s menswear post, I’m taking inspiration from Mani, a Norse god of the moon, and the brother of the god of the sun, Sol. Mani is said to ride across the sky in a horse drawn chariot, followed through his trek by a wolf; when the wolf approaches too closely, a lunar eclipse takes place. He is nephew of the night, and is said to travel around with two children, a boy and a girl named Hjuki and Bil. The children were sent to the moon as punishment after Mani caught them messing with his reflection in a well. Hjuki and Bill  play around on the moon and form the spots and craters we see. Mani is said to protect those who are dealing with emotional pain, he is even said to be a patron to neglected children since some stories claim Hjuki and Bill were neglected.

There is not much information about Mani, and I hadn’t heard of,him prior to this post. I’m all for horses, wolves and I love the Norse pantheon (not to mention the moon), so I’m excited to learn more and work with this deity. For now, take inspiration from him. Think of how important the moon is in a universal sense and to the fact that it controls our tides and crops. Think of what the moon represents; duality, a light in the darkness, connection to dreams, nightmares, and one’s own power and intuition.

Now think about how you can incorporate this into your wardrobe. The metal that corresponds to the moon is silver; dress in black, whites and blues and wear silver to help align you to the the energies that are present. Wear pieces that fuel your passion for mystery, whether that’s a leather jacket, a nice watch or a monocle.

Inspired by Mani

On this Monday, find your own sense of Mani by wearing patterns that mirror the moon’s rough surface. Dress in all black; the color of power and the night. Wear a watch that has a face like the moon, and take note of any little sparks of inspiration or  any moments of intuitive clarity in a notebook just for you.

 

What inspires you when the moon is full?

Happy Monday,

Gabriela

Menswear Monday; How to Rock Shorts

It’s absolutely no secret that I love a man in shorts (and a mun, and a short sleeve button up..with a fade). I obviously have a type. Anyway, as the sunshine kisses our skin we’re urged to drop our pants (har har) and replace them with their fraternal twins, shorts! Many men are too scared to venture to the above-the-knee style, but I personally think they are the best. Grab yourself a short sleeve button up or loose tank and you’re ready to go.

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An easy way to incorporate skinny shorts into your wardrobe is by picking up a pair that’s either black or dark wash. These can be worn with any color shirt, making them a little easier to deal with then their bleached older brothers. For a more casual approach to jorts, grab a floral tank top and some Vans. Wear your jorts the same way you would wear your jeans! Grab a tank with an interesting pattern and some Vans in a cool color. All set to show off your sexy  knees.

 

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For a light wash pair of shorts, grab a darker top. I love short sleeve button ups and jorts, they’re always an easy and classy option. Grab some funky socks and some cool work boots (not to mention some trendy accessories) and you’re good to go.

 

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You will never grow as a person if you don’t step out of your comfort zone. Seriously, what’s more nerve wracking that showing off your knees while wearing a printed pair of shorts?! Maybe wearing a printed pair of shorts with some Chelsea boots and a hat.. Well men, take the leap! Pair a printed pair of shorts with a simple, solid colored tank top. Make sure to keep the shoes simple also! If you’re wearing a statement piece like these shorts you don’t need to add a lot to them, they do the talking themselves.

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If you’re picking up a pair of distressed jorts, don’t be afraid to commit to the Nirvana-esqu vibe they  may bring. Grab one of your flannels, tie it around your waist and top the outfit off (literally) with a vintage band tank or tee. Slip into some Vans or Keds or the like and you’re all set.

Never be afraid to have fun with style. Seriously, it’s exhilarating to dress for no one but yourself. Have fun, take risks and show off your sexy knees.

Namaste,

Gabriela

The Men of the Oscars

I’m not one to goo over red carpet fashions. Although I do love seeing what gowns were worn, for some reason I’m not drawn to award shows. I’m not a huge fan of diamonds, although I like black diamonds a lot, and I’m not one to don delicate jewelry. I think I like day to day fashion or runway shows because I believe every day is a good day to get dressed up; I  like the intricacies of picking out what to wear for day to day life.

The Oscars seem to be the exception to this. Obviously, it’s the biggest show of the year, and it’s the only one I actually care about. Although I love seeing what the women wear, I also adore seeing what the men wear. So today, I bring to you the men of the Oscars and what they wore. You’re welcome.

Zac Efron, in Calvin Klein Collection.

Zac Efron looks dapper as ever in this Calvin Klein Collection skinny suit. Classic, elegant, perfectly tailored and exactly what you would expect from Efron. He’s definitely easy on the eyes.

 

Kevin Spacey, in Burberry.

Kevin Spacey looks dashing in this Burberry Suit. I love a good suit in a blue, and this navy shade hints more on the side of royal blue. The perfect black pointed lapel is paired with a black satin bow tie and is accented by his black watch. I love this look; ageless, appropriate and simple.

 

Joseph Gordon-Levitt, in Calvin Klein Collection.

Is there anyone who’s a bigger heartthrob than Joseph Gordon-Levitt? Like Effron, he decided to don a Calvin Klein Collection look, and there are no words to describe how perfect he looks except the word perfect. A true gentleman, Gordon Levitt looks impeccable with this satin lapel skinny suit which is accented by the daintiest of red pins. Well done, sir, well done.

 

Leonardo DiCaprio, in Giorgio Armani.

Leonardo DiCaprio looks absolutely gorgeous in this Giorgio Armani suit. I love the visible buttons, the wider satin lapel, the bow tie and the perfect pocket scarf. Come on, men! A pocket scarf or tie clip can work wonders. Although DiCaprio didn’t win an Oscar for his role in Wolf of Wall Street, he won one in my heart for being the biggest babe alive. Also, go Leo for rocking that hair! Ugh, so good Leo, so good.

 

Jared Leto, in Saint Laurent, with Harry Winston jewels.

Jared Leto in Saint Laurent was probably the standout for me as far as men go. I love seeing men take risks with fashion (I use that term relatively because every man looks good in a suit) and honestly I think Leto was the biggest risk taker last night. Leto’s ombred locks pair perfectly with his tri-tone suit; the white dress shirt actually pairs well with the cream suit jacket and black pants. I love the bow tie and pocket scarf and how they add another dimension to the look while seamlessly pulling it all together. Leto is such a talented human being, and I think he is ravishing in this look.

 

Matthew McConaughey, in Dolce & Gabbana, and Camila Alves, in Gabriela Cadena, with Lorraine Schwartz jewels.

Matthew McConaughey is also looking absolutely ravishing in this Dolce & Gabbana look. The tri-tone suit is modern and young, while still maintaining an Oscar Worthy appearance. I absolutely love the black buttons on his dress shirt and I love how he paired the black vest with the look. Absolutely wonderful (even though Leo probably doesn’t think so)

 

Martin Scorsese, in Giorgio Armani.

I think Martin Scorsese looks absolutely adorable in this Giorgio Armani suit. Classic, and so well paired with his thick rimmed glasses! He looks so much like Mr.Fredricksen (the old man) from Up! I love it!

 

Ellen DeGeneres, in Saint Laurent.

I know Ellen is not a man, but I just wanted to throw her in here to show that anyone and everyone can look good in a suit. She was brilliant last night AND she broke twitter… as if she couldn’t have been any cooler. She looks amazing in this Saint Laurent piece.

 

All photos courtesy of style.com

Who were your favorites last night?

Namaste,

Gabriela

Five Reasons Every Man Should Practice Yoga

Just like it’s no new fact that I love wearing black, it’s no new fact that I love yoga. One of my long term goals includes being a yoga teacher, and another includes traveling to India to deepen my practice, immerse myself in the culture and hopefully volunteer as well. So, this Monday morning, I am giving every Death King out there five reasons why he should practice yoga. These five reasons are nothing more than just the tip of the iceberg, but we all have to start somewhere!

1. Because you are NOT flexible

I love this meme because it’s so accurate. The wonderful thing about yoga is that it HELPS with flexibility. You don’t have to be able to touch the your toes or put your foot behind your head, but who knows, maybe after a steady practice those things will happen! Yoga couples alignment, stretching, breath and philosophy to create flexibility in your mind, body and soul. Believe me, you’ll be sore after your first yoga class, but it will be well worth it.

 

2. Because it will Help you Breathe

Well, that doesn’t necessarily sound so promising, we’re constantly breathing after all, but let me explain. There are many, many different schools of yoga, but almost every one emphasizes the breath. Different breathing patterns, called pranayama’s, help you in different ways; some calm, some energize, some just help to restore. The most common breathing technique is called ujjayi or ocean breadth and it helps to center and restore and is used in many yoga classes. The breadth is performed by tensing the muscles at the back of the throat and breathing out through the nose, like you’re fogging up a mirror. Paying attention to your breath automatically helps turn your drishti, or gaze, inward; there is stillness and softness that wasn’t present before. By paying attention to the breath while performing the physical postures, a sort of consciousnesses is able to manifest, and there’s a presence that wasn’t there before. This, in turn, carries of the mat and is something you can utilize everyday. Your practice on the mat is a reflection of your life off the mat, after all .

 

3. Because Your Man Butt will Look Really Really Good

Your butt will look great, your body will start to look great, and you’ll feel good. Personally, I love a man with a nice butt, and yoga will definitely give you a nice butt… Yoga means union, and there’s an obvious connection between a happy mind and happy body and soul. The idea behind the series of physical postures, or asanas, is that when the body is active, the mind is quite. The original yogis knew the opposite was true as well; when the body is quite the mind is active. Yoga uses the energetic body and the physical body to strengthen one another; the whole idea of a physical yoga practice is to get your body ready for meditation, or savasana. Don’t be fooled though; a vinyasa style class is no easy feat, it will metaphorically kick your butt, but alas, it will also physically tone it along with the rest of your body.

4. Because There is a Yoga Class for Everyone

Whether you want a physically engaging class or a restoring one, there is a school of yoga for everyone. Love structure and want a class that is like meditation in motion? Try Ashtanga, a school that has a set of series and involves the same postures in almost every class. After  you become familiar with the postures and terminology it becomes moving meditation guided by the breath. Want a yoga practice based around the concept of alignment? Try Iyengar or Anusara. Want a faster paced yoga class that flows from one posture to the next? Try a Vinyasa class. There is something for everyone, find more information about what resonates with you HERE.

 

 

5. Because Yoga is a Spiritual Practice with Physical Benefits, and Not the Other Way Around

The thing with yoga is that YES, it will help tone your inner thighs, shape up your butt, strengthen your back and core, it will help you gain arm muscles and have better postures… those are all true.  But the practice of yoga, when done with integrity, is a lifelong practice that follows you. The physical practice is 1/6th of yoga.. it is only one measly limb. Yoga is one of the most incredible gifts you can give yourself because it will help you to dwell in your soul in a way you didn’t know was possible. I think it’s incredibly attractive when a man takes care of himself, physically and spirituality, and having witnessed the benefits of yoga firsthand, I urge everyone to start a practice and see the benefits themselves. It takes a true man to understand the importance of taking care of himself, and let me tell you, yoga is an amazing way to do it.

I urge everyone, male or female, to get on a mat and see how it changes you. Yoga has many, many more benefits than I was able to list, but I hope I gave you an idea of how much positive change it’s capable of.

PS: These yoga memes are of Woody Woodrow from Our Last Night. When I first met him we bonded over yoga, and two years later, he’s certified as a yoga instructor and practicing yoga around the world while touring with OLN. After two years of talking about doing yoga together, we finally were able to when he OLN was in Atlanta at the Masquerade. If you’re a fan of them and want to get your vinyasa on before a show, ask him to help and he’ll be more than happy to do so.

Namaste,

Gabriela

PS: Yoganonymous has a FREE 60 minute online class for men, which you can find HERE

Defining a Death King

It’s never an easy task to truly define something that’s not necessarily concrete. I defined a Death Queen last week in my weekly blog post for Garnet and Black Magazine, which you can find HERE, so I thought I should also define her male counterpart.

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There is a certain tenderness that arises with consciousness of this life, of the next and of the energies in-between. Almost like a stepping stone, this awareness stems from awakening the unconscious and thinning the veil between this world and the next while doing so. A Death King does not necessarily have to be extremely aware of song of the universe, but he knows it is in his best interest to at least stop and hear its hum. A Death King knows that the mind is the most powerful thing in the world, and he uses it to his advantage.

A Death King knows what he wants and knows how to get there; he is aware of the power that resides in his core and he knows the means in which to manifest it. The Death King understands there is power in positivity and in helping another, and he doesn’t use his awareness as a means of pushing someone else down to climb to the top. He cloaks himself in only that which serves him, whether it’s all black or love and courage.

Just like a Death Queen has a penchant for black, so does the Death King. Since he is acutely aware of the power in presentation, the Death King has no problem in dressing himself in the darkest of shades as a means to repel negativity and feel powerful while doing so. A Death King wears what he wants to wear because he wants to wear it; he is unaffected by others opinions of him because he realizes his own opinion is the only which truly holds weight.

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A Death King is a man versed in life and in his own beliefs. He believes in himself and the unyielding power and potential which resides within him. More than anything else, he realizes this can manifest in every facet of his life… especially in his style.

Namaste,
Gabriela

Menswear Monday; Zachary Kent Adauto

Happy Monday, one and all! I haven’t featured a man for Menswear Monday in a good bit, so I decided to feature one of my best friends, and my fashion prodigy, Zack. It’s interesting how people who you don’t expect to be relevant in your life become relevant later on down the road. Zack and I would see each other at local shows all the time about three years ago, but it wasn’t until about a year and a half ago, the summer before my freshman year at college, that we truly became friends and started hanging out. Fast forward to present day and Zack is truly one of my best guy friends. Besides having a great sense of style, Zack has a spastic and happy personality, and even though he may not seem like it, he has a soft and beautiful heart. Zack loves telling people I am responsible for his sense style, and although I have helped style him on occasion, I think he needs to give himself some more credit.

If more men dressed like Zack, then I would be a very happy girl

Find Zack on instagram and twitter: @dookietrance

Namaste,

Gabriela

Macabre Monday: Death Kings Hate Sun

I arrived in Florida yesterday afternoon and when I sat down to blog today I realized that I’m leaving out a huge demographic of death king trendy men in my blog posts; those who (sadly) live in warm weather at this time of year! Hey! It’s not your fault you live in Florida, or maybe it is, but either way, I should still be able to help you with what to wear! So, today’s blog post is a mini shopping guide for those fellas who get the pleasure of 75 degree weather at this time of year! Click the image for links to all the clothing online if you’re far from a mall, or are just lazy and want to shop online (I won’t judge, I promise)

Topman
 
Did anyone really expect anything less than Topman?! Again, if you’re in NY you have to go.. it’s not a question. If you’re not in NY, you can shop online or head to Nordstrom and pick up some pieces. Here, I styled some jeans with a tee shirt with leather sleeves, a beanie, some slip on boots, a backpack, and a bomber style jacket.
Forever 21 men
Definitely a cult classic, Forever 21 is a go to place if the option is available. They don’t always have menswear, but if they do, grab a floral short sleeve button up, some straight cut jeans, combat boots, a windbreaker style jacket, a snazzy watch and a beanie and you’ll be good to go.
Nordstrom

Nordstrom is a hub for all the death king essentials you’ll need. Like I mentioned before, they sell Topman which is ace if you’re like me and only live in NYC in your mind. Grab a cool tee shirt, some jeans, a nice briefcase and a motorcycle style leather jacket and you’ll be looking as dapper as death himself.

 

J Crew

Last but not least is J Crew. This last store isn’t so much “death king” but like anywhere, you can make it work with a little creativity. Button up short sleeves are always in style, and paired with this cardigan from J Crew’s collaboration with Comme Des Garcon, you got a death king match made in hell. I love these work boots and they play very well together with a pair of dark wash jeans. Snatch up some leather protector and you’ll be set for the best and most stylish “winter” of this life.

Also check out Gap, Banana Republic, H&M, Aldo, Pac Sun and Urban Outfitters.

Hope that helped, death kings!

XXX
Gabriela

Alexander Wang Fall 2013 Collection Review

I’ve been on a death king/macabre Monday/ all black everyday binge this past…lifetime.. and I am not about to stop now. Alexander Wang has risen and risen and risen in my book of favorite designers. This once up and coming designer is now a household name and he deserves it; i mean, even Yeezus recognizes how great he is. Wang’s Fall 2014 menswear collection is dark, haunting, urban and avant-garde. Oversize cowl necks, hoods and ankle skimming cropped pants all form together to create the perfect death king equation. The mostly monochromatic color scheme works with the punk style aesthetic that Wang seemed to be aiming for in everything from cut, silhouette and crop to models. Oversize shirts and sweaters in simple gray and black patterns pair well with a straight cropped slack and the perfect black leather work boot. The textures in this collection also work together to help create some variety and interest in an incredibly cohesive collection; suede, cotton, leather, denim and even velvet, all make an appearance. This collection is for the man who knows how to stand his ground. This collection is for the man who knows that holds his power and his strength in his own hands. It takes a certain type of sensibility to wear clothes in colors that manage to mute you, but to still be able to hold your own. There comes a certain type of  freedom that becomes ingrained in you when you let go of others expectations for the way you conduct and dress yourself. It is liberating to wear what you want to wear and dress how you want to dress; even if it’s in all black. This collection is for the man who knows he couldn’t blend in if he tried.

Hope you have a well dressed macabre Monday

XXX
Gabriela

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