Happy New Year sweet things! I hope you all looked fabulous and dapper and rang in the new year with people you love. Time is one of the hardest concepts for me to grasp in this life (that’s a subject for another conversation and post),so a new year is always an interesting and fresh start for me. This year, I’m changing it up and really buckling down on my goals and making a commitment to actually keep up with them. I don’t really do resolutions since I try to keep goals year round, instead, I use the beginning of the new year as a benchmark and check up of these goals, if you will This sort of looking back and review for the past year has made me really think about this site, and my style and blogging. I feel like there’s a lot to learn and a long way for me to go, but I also truly believe that being a fashion blogger has taught me a lot as well; and not just about what the latest Target collaboration is. There are some life lessons to be learned, and I think the sooner you learn em, the better.
What Other People Think is Irrelevant
It does not matter what the lady down the street watching you have your photo taken thinks. It does not matter what the woman giving you the up and down at Kani House thinks. It does not matter what the man staring at your shaved hair thinks…It really and truly does not matter. Of course, if said person is your boss or interviewer, it matters completely, but I’m talking about random judgmental strangers. It takes time and strength to liberate yourself from this worrying about others opinions, but it is so important. There is no point in being self conscious with yourself because of someone who only sees you from the outside; you are worth so much more than what you’re wearing or the pose you’re striking, anyway. Give yourself the peace of mind and freedom to do what you want to do without worrying about other peoples opinions; you deserve it.
I got some odd looks in today’s getup
Dress How You Want to Dress No Matter Where You Are
I just did a little baby post on this about a month ago, but I will recap it once again. Dress however you want to dress. Period. I don’t care if you’re in Columbia, South Carolina or Woodland Hills, California, I really don’t; this is me telling you to once again, liberate yourself from what others think and dress how you want to dress. Seriously, the weird stares and questioning side eyes are well worth it if you’re happy and feel fabulous. Wear your faux-fur in North Dakota or your thigh highs in Alabama, if you feel good, it will show.
Wearing black lipstick is fun but not common in good ole Columbia
Fashion Can Send a Strong Message
Really and truly, fashion has the capability to make people think. It’s called a fashion statement for a reason, after all. Use the power of your clothing to send a message; whether that means being a boss ass bitch in your perfect outfit or being an advocate for equality and love in a “No H8” shirt. Fashion has the incredible power to both transform and create, and you can use this to your advantage in your life in almost every facet. You can look like the killer death queen you are and state that you shouldn’t even be messed with without opening your mouth, or you can tell people that you like beef like Lady Gaga did in her meat dress. The options seem to be endless..
I was sending the message of an asylum patient
You Have to Love Yourself and Your Style Before Anyone Else Does
Can I get five amen’s and a hallelujah?! Seriously, this is just a golden life rule; you have to love yourself before you let anyone else love you, and you have to love yourself before you love anyone else. This can be applied to style as well; it is irrelevant if your friend with a completely different aesthetic is in love with the crazy new get up you’re unsure about, if you aka the one who’s wearing it, isn’t smitten.. She is not going to have to walk around in it, you are. Confidence is one of the best things you can wear, if you love your outfit it shows and you glow!!! Honestly, when I’m unsure about my outfit, it turns into feeling like I look gross and being uncomfortable and it’s not pleasant. It doesn’t matter if my sister loves my outfit or if my best friend thinks I look ace, if I don’t love my outfit and think I look ace, what’s the point of wearing it?! Do yourself a favor and define your style. Love what you wear and own it. Wear it well. Then, when other people say you look good you can smile and truly say “thank you” and not “Ew I look o gross today”.
What have you learned from your experiences this past year?!