Banishing the Creeps with Little Whip

I’m small. I’m 5’6 and 110 pounds with a big attitude and even bigger eyes. I see things and I notice things and even though I may not seem like I’m always aware of my surroundings, I’m always in tune to how things make me feel. Living in a city like Columbia , South Carolina means that I’m a novelty. The biggest pick up line that people use on me is “I’ve seen you all over” or “I always see you on campus but you’re in your own world.” Fair enough- getting noticed works in my advantage (hello this is a blog after all.) But there’s a difference between being noticed and being creeped on because I present myself a certain way.A-3119

Case in point- Early Friday afternoon I was in my car outside of Walgreens, about to get out when I noticed a bro in front of my car, desperately trying to get my attention and talk to me. I furiously shook my head NO while avoiding all eye contact, only to see said bro come to the side of my window to try and talk to me. My heart was racing as I tried to plan an escape- should I just jump out of my passenger side and run for cover in the haven that is Walgreens? Eventually he got the picture and left- but not before I walked past him with a look of rage on my face without making any eye contact while going into Walgreens.

Here’s the thing- I don’t mind a compliment. I don’t mind a smile. But feeling blatantly objectified and disrespected and honestly SCARED is never fun. I don’t know who’s psycho and who’s not. I’m not sure if this bro is gonna pull out a knife or gun if I reject him- so I have to be civil. Dressing with confidence, dressing for MYSELF, does not give anyone else permission to make me feel uncomfortable. That’s not how it works.

B-3121After taking to Facebook to complain about getting hit on, I of course had another semi-terrifying encounter that night while trying to buy some flowers at Publix. I was getting out of my car and saw someone in a flannel and five panel walking towards me, while I was walking in from the parking lot. After many “hellos” which I ignored as I was walking inside (into safety) this older man decided to tell me he moved here from San Diego and had never seen a punk chic in Columbia I didn’t know what to say. I was trying to be civil as I rushed to the nearest aisle of the grocery store, while he was still following me, and then he asked if he could walk with me. I gave him the dead in the eyes look before finally saying I wasn’t interested and walking away, to which he replied “damnnnn” as I strutted down the aisle to take refuge in the wine section. After I was done shopping, I rushed to my car and thought I was safe until I looked to the car next to me as I was about to back out and saw this same man NEXT TO MY WINDOW. I started to roll my window up and he begged me not to, telling me he wasn’t a creep or a weirdo, and that he had never seen anyone like me in Columbia. I said he was hanging in the wrong area and that I needed to go. He kept calling me “so damn beautiful” as I frantically whipped my car into reverse and left the store. F-3138

SO- what’s the point of these ridiculously long and unnecessary stories? These experiences, these encounters happen to women everywhere. Not all men are like this, but YES- all women go through this sort of thing. And as a white women I can only sympathize with my sisters of other ethnicities  and races who are objectified and discriminated on a level that I will never be able to fully comprehend. We can’t just scream F*** YOU because we’re scared of what will happen when we stand up for ourselves, and that in itself is terrifying. So what’s a girl to do? People tell me I look mean, or like a bitch- that I dress intimidatingly or scary. And you know why?! Because I don’t want people to mess with me!

One of the reasons I am so excited for this collab with Little Whip is because they stand for something I whole heartedly believe in- womanhood, unapologetic sexuality and power. By wearing pieces that are powerful and sensual I’m able to tap into both of those energies as I move through my day. Add to that the fact that this shirt is one of the softest things I own, and that I can pair it with pretty much anything and I’m hooked. Little Whip even has incredible pins like a whip (what else) and red lips. I’ll be blogging about those next week! But for now, I’m content pairing my cropped handcuff tee with some thigh high boots and an attitude that is unapologetic and confident. One that says- yes I love me but no, you don’t have to talk to me. Wearing something slightly “intimidating” means giving myself permission to worry and focus on myself- and not the creeps I have to keep away. So today, I am banishing the creeps. Thanks Little Whip.E-3135 D-3127 C-3124G-3147

Shirt:: LITTLE WHIP// Shorts:: Asos// Boots: Public Desire// Mesh and hat:: VintageH-3151

All photos by my incredible sister Alexandra Herstik, @alexyael .

Make sure to check out Little Whip’s amazing pieces HERE– AND don’t forget to check back next week for PART 2 of our collab.

FLEXSUS STUDIOS PRESENTS::: BOTANICAL FRAGMENTATION

One of the coolest parts of the internet, at least to this lady, is its ability to create a global community. I have met some of my best friends through the internet and I’ve been able to work with some incredible people and brands because of it as well. Although it can feel isolating when this internet love turns into obsession, the potential for collaboration and community that the internet brings is truly incomparable.

Today’s post is special and different and, more than anything, exciting. My good friend Morgan approached me with this incredible video that her friend Sarah Prinz, of Flexsus Studios, choreographed and danced in. She knew I would love it- and she was right.

Botanical Fragmentation merges the creativity of Sarah alongside director Trevor Osmond, and pairs this with designs from Polish born Agnes Hamerlik. There’s an exquisitely unnerving quality to this video, with stark movements and choreography juxtaposed alongside delicately  decadent dresses. Blood red designs feel eerie adorned with floral embellishments and there’s a sense of decadence when this is followed by midnight black sequined chiffon. Sarah’s performance, her craftsmanship, brings these dresses to life- allowing a visual exploration of what it means to be human and to move through this life in your own skin. There’s an Alexander McQueen-esque quality to this piece- bold in its beauty with an underlying motif that the masks we wear only serve us if we let them.

Find out more about Flexsus at www.flexsusstudios.com  and reach them at flexsusstudios@gmail.com. The studio is always looking to collaborate.

Find more of Agnes Hamerliks designs at www.agneshamerlik.com.

KIMYE THE FINALE

For this last set of Kimye inspired goodness, Bakari and I went to one of my favorite places to take photos- the top of my apartment’s parking garage! Imagine that we landed on a private jet, in true Kimye fashion, and that we were carried off onto the makeshift tarmac while we were eating grapes (we weren’t). For this set of photos I wore Zara waxed jeans, a Zara leather top and Steve Madden shoes.

We had lots of fun with these shoots, and more fun things are definitely to come.  DSC_6900 DSC_6902 DSC_6903 DSC_6905 DSC_6906 DSC_6908 DSC_6909 DSC_6910 DSC_6914 DSC_6918 DSC_6919 DSC_6920

Sticks and Stones and Birds and Bones

I’ve had the amazing opportunity to collaborate with one of my current favorite jewelry companies, Birds and Bones. This incredible jewelry brand is hand crafted in San Francisco by two amazing ladies. I knew I was in love with these incredible pieces as soon as I saw them and I still can’t get over how perfectly creepy and delicate pieces are. BAB meld my love for this life and the next by bringing together bones and oddities together to create incredible pieces you can wear in this life.

I was able to style their Quartz Necklace  and their Mus Pendant. I love being able to wear pieces that incorporate crystals and animals since both of these things hold properties of their own. Quartz is a powerful stone that helps harness energy; clear quartz can be charged for whatever purpose you want, whether it’s healing, love, strength…etc. I wear this piece as a little telephone from the universe to tell me hello now and then. This mouse skull pendant combines the agility and awareness of the mouse with the healing, and relaxation of amethyst.  Not only is amethyst my birthstone, but it is my favorite stone. It helps to connect to the higher self, the third eye and aids one with healing and relaxation.

I chose to pair these necklaces with a little bandeau from Zara, shorts from Nasty Gal, and shoes, a kimono and hat from H&M. This look was meant to be one for a hot summer day when you don’y feel like wearing a bathing suit, but don’t really feel like wearing pants either. I had so much fun prancing around in this.I felt powerful and ladylike and i can’t wait to wear these necklaces out and about!

 

All photos were taken by amazing twin Alexandra, @Alexyael. My soul sister Marissa, @rissakathrine, helped too.

What do you wear that helps you in this life?!

Namaste,

Gabriela

Wang X H&M

Fashion lovers rejoice. It has finally happened; the holy day. Alexander Wang and H&M will be collaborating in November. Wang recently announced his latest endeavor at a Coachella party, where guest arrived to see the retail and designer would be joining forces. Wang, who’s the first American retailer that H&M has signed on to collaborate with, is known for his sporty chic style and it-girl aesthetic. His collection with H&M, which will be released on November 6th, will sport both men and womenswear. This collection also marks H&M’s 10 year anniversary of collaborating with designers. Wang is infamous for keeping his lips sealed about what he’s doing, what he’s showing and how he’s showing it, and this collaboration is no different. Keep your eyes and ears open and mark you calendars, fashion girls and boys… Wang says this collection promises “newness”, and it is sure to not disappoint.

Judgement

For the fourth look in my tarot series, I decided to choose a card that was a little bit more difficult for me to explain, especially in terms of fashion. Judgment, the 20th card in the tarot deck, has been showing itself to me over and over and over again in my own readings. I’ve always struggled with judgment; of others and of myself. I know these are one in the same; judging others is a way of projecting my own judgments and insecurities of myself outward.I am constantly reminding myself to love more, and live from a place rooted in love and bliss.This card is a great reminder of that. Judgment speaks of awakening, or rebirth, of ascending to something greater and new. When I draw this card in a reading, I am reminded of a few key things about myself, and the way I view the world.

Drawing this card in a reading, for me, is a reminder to approach every facet of life with an open mind and heart. There are things that happen that sometimes don’t make sense and don’t seem to fit our notion of what should be. We place labels on things, deeming them good or bad, right or wrong, without taking a step back and looking at the situation in its entirety, for what it is. By covering something with a judgment we aren’t allowing ourselves to surpass whatever experience or person or thing we just judged; we aren’t allowing ourselves to learn. Sometimes judgment is necessary in keeping yourself safe and out of harms way, but sometimes it’s not. By labeling something, whether it’s an experience or a person, you are boxing said thing in. Don’t confine anything or anyone, including yourself, to labels or judgments. You are far greater than any word or words you can cast; your soul is much greater than that.This card signifies an awakening, a consciousness, that takes place when judgment has ceased, and life, in all of her forms, is accepted and welcomed. This card reminds us to ascend to a place where judgment isn’t necessary, and to see things from a different and more open perspective. Shirt and Skirt: Zara/ Bra: Urban Outfitters/ Necklaces: Forever 21 and Barney’s Outlet, Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

So glad I have been able to continue working with Mary. Make sure to check her out HERE.

Namaste,

Gabriela

Leonisa Lingerie

So excited to announce my review, and collaboration, with the lust worthy lingerie brand Leonisa. After working on this for the past few weeks, I am so excited to finally be able to review the amazing bra they sent me! I couldn’t resist styling the piece as well, black bras are the perfect accessory after all.

As someone with a smaller bust, I have the exact opposite problem with bras that ladies with larger busts have; I can’t find bras that are small enough that fit properly. Beyond Victoria’s Secret and pretty lace bras that don’t do much accept for being aesthetically pleasing, it can be a daunting task to find bras that really flatter my small frame. When Leonisa approached me about a possible review, I was excited but somewhat nervous at the prospect of having to review a bra that may not fit. But alas, I took the leap and ordered the Seamless Balconet Bra with Air Push Up in 32A and hoped it would fit well. When I received the bra and eagerly tried it on, I was beyond impressed and excited. The push up adds a lift that’s sexy without squishing my boobs together too much and giving me awkward cleavage; it lifts and pushes up and gives the always anticipated perfect cleavage curve. The fit of the bra itself is perfect; the slight dip in the straight across bust line shows off the push up of the bra while still having a bandeau style cut. Since the bra can be worn strapless, this cut is awesome because it covers enough to be able to be worn under a sheer, or even mesh shirt, without looking tacky. The bra has wire on the sides of the cups which I adore because it helps keep everything up and in and although the band itself can be a bit uncomfortable at first, the more you wear the more it will mold to your body. I seriously can’t wait to wear this bra under my crop tops for some extra lift and under my mesh shirt instead of a bandeau.

Leonisa has a ton of lovely lingerie, shapewear and activwear, and it’s all affordable. Check out their selection and let me know what you think! Check it out HERE

I dressed this bra up a little bit with some help from my Love Culture top, Unif for Nasty Gal shorts, Jeffrey Campbell shoes, a Nasty Gal necklace and of course, the Leonisa bra.

Styled this bra down with my favorite mesh shirt from H&M and my amazing new Deena and Ozzy holographic shoes from Urban Outfitters.

Thank you Leonisa for the fabulous new bra!

XXX
Gabriela

VintEDGE Magazine!

One of my amazing friends wrote an incredible article about me and Breathing Fashion for VintEDGE magazine! The up and coming magazine is amazing and definitely worth checking out. It’s an honor to have been featured!

it means so much that people are invested in this blog and what I do. Thank you to everyone who’s  supported me and who continues to support me!

If you want a digital or hard copy, buy it HERE!!

XXX
Gabriela

Hello dear readers!  I’m  sorry for all the sporadic posts, and I apologize but I will be in a funky blogging schedule until the 16th! I’m moving in this weekend and then coming home only to go back to SC the 16th so until then, please bear with me.

My amazing friend Jordan accompanied me to my latest shoot on Saturday with No Contenders Photography, These are just the unedited shots he sent me, I can’t wait to post my favorites

Shirt and Necklace  Forever 21

Purse: Zara

Boots: Nasty Gal

Watch: Michael Kors

Skirt, Necklace and Shirt: Forever 21

Shoes: Jessica Simpson

Watch: Michael Kors

Sweater: Loehmans

Shorts: Forever 21

Shoes: Jeffrey Cambpell

Purse: American Thread

Leotard: Junkman’s Daughter

Shorts: Forever 21

Purse: Urban Outfitters

Shoes: Jeffrey  Campbell

Can’t wait to share more
XXX
Gabriela

High Voltage Blog X El Bambino Lookbook Pt II

As promised, I have listed some new crowns over at El Bambino! I’m also releasing some new photos of my collaboration with Miranda  of High Voltage Blog. As you all must know by now, I’m incredibly inspired by those of the other realm. I draw an immense amount of inspiration from the fay, or faeries. Miranda took the vision I had for the shoot and added to it, creating something incredible

What are YOU inspired by that’s out of this world?

XXX

Gabriela

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